SIL is a lot younger than OH. I have distanced myself over the years as she and MIL only ever get in contact when they need money. They know how I feel about this.
We both work and do ok but we have a lot of outgoings with 6 kids and maintenance etc and are trying to save for various things.
MIL in her 50s and has never worked (there is nothing wrong with her) claimed JSA until FIL and her sold the house after divorce - she lived on that money (£40K) the last two years but that has now all gone (rent and who knows what else) and she's had to get a part time job. Her and SIL rent together privately as they couldn't get a council house (I was v about them even trying) SIL has always worked.
SIL BF moved in a year or so ago and he has no job. They live a long way from us and we fell out massively last year when they didn't even send OH a birthday card for his 40th - I had a party for mine which they didn't come to either (I didn't care) DSS came and so did OH best mates from home town.
SIL has texted OH this week saying over the last year she and BF have managed to get themselves 20k into debt on credit cards and a car loan in her name and she's in a mess and can we (well he) help.
I only found this out because his dad phoned and he took the call in front of me and discussed it.
He has said no but only because we took out a loan last year for some home improvements. FIL rightly has told her to sort it out herself but OH showed me the texts between him and her and it was clear he was going to take out a loan in his name for her to repay and probably not tell me.
AIBU to just feel pissed off that he does not see how his family just use him as a meal ticket. The thing he was most upset about was that they didn't come to my party because they said they couldn't afford it while this was clearly during the time the major spending was happening - I really did not care about this but he did more than the fact she didn't even send him a card for his while he gifted her £400 for her 21st to spend on a holiday.
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Cutecat78 · 17/04/2016 23:58
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