Hi all, really at a loss as to how and help my family and would be really grateful for any advice or constructive criticism.
Our DS has just turned 4. He is a happy, healthy, gorgeous fellow but a complete Jekyll Hyde. He was a late talker, but has generally taken massive leaps in development since he turned 3 and is just streets ahead of where he was. He goes to nursery 4 days a week, and despite acknowledging that his understanding and social skills are a little delayed, he is very smart, calm, well-behaved and co-operative in class.
At home, he is either charming and great fun, or ridiculously stroppy, stubborn and will NOT do as he's told without screaming and occasionally hitting. He hates anybody else talking to me, so will start singing at the top of voice to drown out DH, which irritates DH immensely.
He has no impulse control, and will throw anything, break things etc then look at us for a reaction. He's not the most difficult child there ever was, but he can be hard work. No SN recognised as of yet.
My husband loves him to pieces, but has less patience for the constant drama and fights over the smallest things (e.g. sock on wrong foot) and does not enjoy family time. He tries to take DS out for 'daddy time', at least twice a week as he wants to bond with him, but it almost always ends in DS having a tantrum about leaving or not being allowed to do something, and they both come back upset.
My DH is quite similar in temperament - quick to fly off the handle, anxious, occasionally quite grumpy, likes his own way and has a history of disliking authority. He has previously taken anger management courses. We have never hit each other or smacked our son.
I feel some days like I am fighting to keep them both calm and happy and failing desperately, I dread weekends as if DS gets grumpy DH starts moaning - the pressure to keep things peaceful is immense. While on the one hand I do understand that DS can be so infuriating, I also think as a parent, DH needs to calm down and stop ranting as negativity is getting us nowhere.
So sorry for the huge essay, I am just gutted for them both as they went to the beach this morning as no nursery today. DS wanted to run into a restaurant all sandy and naked, DH said No..DS screamed and hit him in front of everyone. Two unhappy boys.
Does anyone have any advice? Feel like I am living with two teenagers. Am also nearly 27 weeks pregnant, so already tired and a bit fed up.
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AIBU?
AIBU to think 'if you don't like his temper tantrums, calm the fuck down yourself!'
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TooGood2BeFalse · 15/04/2016 11:05
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