I've 2 dc of my own, AIBU to feel slightly 'funny' when I hear pregnancy announcements?

[WalkingZed]

Does anyone get like this?

You are happy for the person but there's just something that wishes it was you again?!

I've one of each aged 1 and 3! My hands are full.

I'm 38 so there will be no more dc!

I did had a silent mc a few months back, got to 12 weeks, awful shock.

I feel awful that I feel like this when people announce pregnancy.

Is it just me?

[AddToBasket]

YANBU (as long as you don't show it!).

[Tiggywinkler]

I get it. I don't even want another, but I still get that pang!

[TheEmperorNotTheSalad]

YANBU. But if you're anything like me, you are envious of the initial pregnancy announcement 'excitement' and the inevitable fawning that follows, rather than the actual reality of having another child.

[TheEmperorNotTheSalad]

Shit...I missed the MC bit. So sorry. I've also been in this position. It's awful. for you, OP.

[WalkingZed]

Yes Tiggy that's the word...pang!

[scoppp]

Yes! Especially the attention but not the actual labour. Eugh.

[RudeElf]

Me!! Every fucking time! Mine are 6 and 10 and the pangs havent stopped. I'd really love another but long term single so not gonna happen any time soon. Will have to live vicariously through friends.

[expatinscotland]

No. I am so glad this part of my life is over.

[HumphreyCobblers]

I don't get this either. I feel grateful it isn't me, I am terrible at being pregnant, I hate every minute of it.

[Hufflepuffin]

I got this pang when my baby was much less than six months old. A part of me will always wish I was pregnant, which sounds crazy!

[ollieplimsoles]

I get this, like a knot on my tummy that lasts a second, it is for the excitement of the announcement, the waiting, the fun and emotion surrounding a birth announcement, then bam, back to real life but you have a baby!

[Twistedheartache]

Not with the pregnancy announcement - generally just excited for them but have a colleague due her first in 3 weeks & when I was talking to her the other day the thought of newborn snuggles gave me the pang.
I'm 36, split up with h last year so am definitely finished but can't wait to meet him/her

[RudeElf]

I was told of the pregnancy of a woman ive never met tonight and i got the pang. Its not the pregnancy i crave its the new baby. All squishy and edible and lovely smelling. And the pram!

[Ilovenannyplum]

YANBU

I get this too. Would love love love another DC but it's just not financially or logistically possible for us.
When people announce pregnancies I do tend to get a very fleeting moment of sadness but it evaporates pretty quickly when I remember how much giving birth hurts

[MNetter15]

I get this too, even though I am soooo done. Funnily enough, I don't get it when I hear the baby announcement, just the pregnancy

[TweeterandtheMonkeyman]

No not at all - I'm so done! In fact if it's their first I feel a teeny tiny bit sorry for them I love a pregnancy or birth announcement, I'm interested but not at all envious !

[EponasWildDaughter]

Never ever had it through my 20s when i was having my first 3.
Certainly never had it once they were all at primary school age.
Began to have it when DH2 and i got together and um'd and ah'd about trying together.
Got it baaaaadly after my mc.
Now we've had lovely DD4 (2.4) it's gone again. Totally. Forever i expect. Thank god.

In fact i actually feel slight pity when i hear an announcement now!

[lljkk]

I don't wish I was pregnant again (no thanks to morning sickness!!) but... I remember when I knew I was done making babies, youngest about 2yo, and I'd see pg women & think "Oi, what do you think you're playing at. I'm done, why are you carrying on?"

Daft I tell you. I got over it. :)

[Osolea]

I get the pang too, but it's the same when people get engaged as well.

I genuinely don't want to do either thing again, and I'm thankful for the positive experiences I had, bit I think there's something kind strange about knowing those major life events are over and done with.

[feelingdizzy]

My kids are teens,I really don't want another child,but I bumped into a woman I used to work with who is the same age as me and she was pregnant.I have no idea why,but after seeing her I really wanted to cry.

[splendide]

I feel a weird mix of envy and feeling a bit sorry for them.

I loved being pregnant and enjoyed giving birth and now I love having my toddler but I found the first 6-8 months or so just unbearably hard. Just horrible I was really unwell mentally. So it gives me flashbacks to that a bit, if it's their first.

[HPsauciness]

I used to have the pang for about 8 years after I gave birth to my last.

Once the door to having more had really clanged shut, I don't have the pang, in fact, I feel sorry for them!

I think it's easier once you know it's not an option (even if it's really not an option anyway).

[expatinscotland]

I didn't like being pregnant or giving birth. Really found the toddler and pre-school years hard. Love having school-aged kids. I have nightmares I'm pregnant. Thankfully they are just that, DH had a vasectomy years ago and I'm 45, so I'll never be pregnant again, whew!

[HopefulHamster]

The one time I ever saw a 'bfp' without fertility treatment, I had a terrible tummy bug and had a mc a few weeks later. So part of me is jealous of people who have that early excitement.

But that's totally silly because I have two kids and don't want any more!