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To be posed off re: this letter about DS's attendance (another not attend parenting class)

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HackerFucker22 Tue 12-Apr-16 16:48:34

Got a letter today and as DS only has 92% attendance I have been invited to attend a parenting 'attendance and punctuality' class. Letter read along the lines of "as a school we are striving to keep attendance at 96% and your child falls below this"

All fine except DS is 3.6yo, in preschool and has only just gone full time (he got a FT place end of January but shouldn't be FT until September). The killer us being in the preschool doesn't guarantee him a place in the actual school. Sadly school is very oversubscribed and I am doubtful he'll get a place past few years even siblings have been on the waiting list

The letter was addressed to me (well "parent of baby hackerfucker22") so it wasn't a standard letter.

Am I right to be pissed off that we're being pulled up on attendance when he isn't even at the school and unlikely to get a place. Why should his good attendance benefit the school he won't even be able to attend?

He had a whole week off in late January due to a virus was far too ill to attend school, temperature on and off for 5 days, vomiting etc and another 2 days due to a cough / cold. The teacher recommended he didn't come in as he 'wasn't himself and seemed off colour'

HackerFucker22 Tue 12-Apr-16 16:49:04

Obviously title should read 'pissed' off?

almostthirty Tue 12-Apr-16 16:50:28

Definitely. It is not compulsory for him to attend !

MummaV Tue 12-Apr-16 16:52:55

His attendance isn't compulsory so not sure exactly what they aim to achieve with that?

SweetAdeline Tue 12-Apr-16 16:54:22

I think you'll be having a lucky escape if he doesn't get a place at the school! It's ridiculous.

pointythings Tue 12-Apr-16 16:57:01

Nope, YANBU. I'm shock at this obsessiveness and I'd be utterly hacked off. Especially at the implication that your DS' absence is somehow due to your poor parenting when the poor thing was ill. This is not a school I would want a child of mine to attend...

Mishaps Tue 12-Apr-16 16:57:05

I know what is behind this. The government set an attendance target for schools and if they fall below these they get marked down on their OfSted. Crass rules lead to crass behaviour.

Ignore it. "a parenting 'attendance and punctuality' class." FFS - how bloody patronising! - you have rights over your child, and the right to be treated like an intelligent adult who knows when their child is too ill for school. He is not even school age! I despair.

MrsDeVere Tue 12-Apr-16 17:11:54

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HackerFucker22 Tue 12-Apr-16 17:18:12

Sorry realised there was another typo in my title. Phone has a mind of its own.

I will mention it to teacher tomorrow (preschool staff are lovely) and I'm sure they'll reassure me they have no concerns but I think it's a bloody cheek.

If they could guarantee me a place at the school then fair enough!!

Of course all the illnesses DS has had have come from preschool anyway.

AugustaFinkNottle Tue 12-Apr-16 17:28:35

It's almost worth going to the stupid class just to ask them precisely what parenting failure they allege led to your child picking up bugs from their pre-school, and exactly what you could have done to avoid it.

Ninjagogo Tue 12-Apr-16 17:30:50

shock even my local primary school does not enforce attendance in nursery or reception and they are very keen on attendance generally. I would not go and explain why!

RaptorInaPorkPieHat Tue 12-Apr-16 17:32:39

I have been invited to attend a parenting attendance and punctuality class

Please go and be late grin

Seriously, it's just the BS government targets, don't let it wind you up.

BirthdayBetty Tue 12-Apr-16 17:33:17

That's bonkers!

OurBlanche Tue 12-Apr-16 17:34:08

I'd go, just to be obnoxious and ask difficult questions, like those Augusta suggested smile

cricketballs Tue 12-Apr-16 17:36:04

It is a standard letter (mail merge) and will be sent to every child below OFSTED's magic 95%. Schools have to be seen addressing attendance for every child no matter the issues

OFSTED and DfE are the ones to be angry with

BrandNewAndImproved Tue 12-Apr-16 17:40:38


When my dc were at nursery/pre school o regularly took them out and to the zoo instead. When I would ring and say dd isn't coming today as we're off to the zoo all they would say is fab have a lovely day and see you tomorrow!

slkk Tue 12-Apr-16 17:42:46

Pre school attendance figures shouldn't even be relevant to ofsted's targets. Enjoy this year and try to get away out of school holidays again if I were you.

Spandexpants007 Tue 12-Apr-16 17:45:18

Shocking!!! What a joke

MadamDeathstare Tue 12-Apr-16 17:45:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Spandexpants007 Tue 12-Apr-16 17:46:37

By law your child doesn't have to be in school till the term after their fith birthday

JoffreyBaratheon Tue 12-Apr-16 17:46:46

It's a new, presumably tory thing. I've had The Letters (without the condescending threat of parenting class) for both my 13 and 15 year olds. They have only been absent for orthodontist appointments and a couple of sickness bugs. Apparently there is no such thing as an 'authorised absence' any more. Or rather, according to the school admin's doublespeak "Yes, they are authorised absences but they are still absences".

Had a text about a routine dental check up on my phone for 15 year old today. They said if you are NHS you now have to prove you're exempt from paying fees when you attend - or you wil pay there and then. "New government regulations", apparently.

I think this frankly nuts to start with government has gone even more apeshit.

My older kids often had 100% attendance year in year out, same school. So they know I'm not a crap parent. Or they should. So basically, they can go swivel if they think going to the ortho is evil, now. We aren't all rich enough to go private and get evening/weekend appointments.

PhoenixReisling Tue 12-Apr-16 17:50:44

He's not satuatory school age, until the term after he is five and by law does not need to even attend preschool/school until then.

If you can be arsed, I would be write a letter to the headteacher/manager stating this and saying that you will not be attending any parenting classes any do not expect any letters in regards to this in future.

then burn the letter or take delight in using it for target practice

womdering Tue 12-Apr-16 17:56:07

Laughing at suggestion of 'Go -and be late!'
I like her style.
What a load of baloney.
Honestly! If see your lovely staff and ask them to pass the letter back to the administrator who sent it to you.
Pop a post-it slapped across the front and in an envelope stating taut your child was ill and you'd been advised not to come in until they were clear of obvious sickness and diarrhoea (specify the days noted in their policy for each).
Add to that the fact that your child is under 5.
Such tosh

Mistigri Tue 12-Apr-16 17:56:33

* OFSTED and DfE are the ones to be angry with*

Parents have precisely zero influence over OFSTED and DfE policies. They can influence the way that those policies are applied by their school, though.

I would be outraged in the OP's situation - probably cross enough to show up at the meeting and make a fuss. We're talking about a 3 year old who was genuinely unwell - no "government policy" excuses this sort of crap.

ArmfulOfRoses Tue 12-Apr-16 17:59:45

I accidentally failed to attend a meeting at the school about my children's attendance a couple of years ago grin

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