I know it's stupid, but this has really pissed me off.

[Obliviated]

DP got a new laptop for Christmas, today I text him and asked him if I could use it as mine is broken, he says of course I can and sends me the password - his ex girlfriends name. I text him back saying 'are you fucking kidding me?' and he called straight away to say it's an old password that he's always been able to remember. Lovely.

[PPie10]

yanbu! So he can't remember your name then? How disrespectful to you.

[19lottie82]

I'd be pretty pissed off too tbh.

He could have at least muddled together some excuse why you couldn't use it until he changed it!

How long have you been together?

[TiffanyAtBreakfast]

Oh wow that would piss me off.

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

Nah that would piss me right off too

[HawkEyeTheNoo]

YAnBU I would be fucking furious!!!

[Annarose2014]

It'd be childish but I'd say "Cool, no worries. You won't mind if I change mine to (ex boyfriend). Fair's fair!"

[ElderlyKoreanLady]

Christ that's poor. I'm assuming you've been together longer than he's had the laptop and he's physically set this as a password during your relationship?

Why the hell didn't he stall?! Make an excuse?! Anything other than sending his DPHIL confirmation that he uses his ex's name for his password!

[ElderlyKoreanLady]

My new phone thinks Dear Phil is a thing I meant DP.

[RaeSkywalker]

I would be very hurt.

[Lighteningirll]

Easy one you now have access change his password to iamacunt

[PurpleRibbons]

One of my passwords is my ex boyfriend's name! I feel guilty now. It really has no significance to me, I used it when we were together and it's a name where it's easy to swop numbers for letters eg 4 instead if A to make a stronger password. Also I assume my DH's name would be easy for people to guess but this wouldn't.

[DropYourSword]

Whoa whoa everyone. Just a second! Ok, I can understand why you're upset, but if he's anything like me he has the same password for virtually everything (or you end up playing bloody password bingo and locking yourself out of things). It might just be that this is his standard password and it's easier to keep it than change. Doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that.

[GirlOverboard]

Presumably that's just the default password he's used for everything for years, so he still uses it because it's easy to remember. I still use my old address for a lot of my passwords, even though I moved six years ago. It's just force of habit. I can see why you're annoyed, but I wouldn't read too much into it.

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

For everyone saying why didn't he stall - that would have looked bad. Really bad. Like there was something on the laptop that he was trying to hide.

So he'd then either have to reveal that the password was something OP wouldn't like anyway, or have OP thinking that there was something on that laptop that he didn't want her to see...

[PerryHatter]

It'll be the same one he's had for years and can't be arsed changing.

[Felyne]

Well your password is supposed to be something nobody else would guess, so in that case it's a good choice really.
I'd be hurt though.

[PerryHatter]

Just realised its for his new laptop - yes, default password. I have one, I'm sure most people do.

[magicstar1]

Sounds like he doesn't even think about it any more. One of my passwords is the name of a cat belonging to a guy I worked with 20 years ago...it's just a word to me nowadays.

[Annarose2014]

I know you can have a default password for 20 years but if it's an exes name surely there comes a point where you think "Hmmm mm. ...maybe I should start using something else from now on...."

It's not the same as an old Street or pet!

[sepa]

I would be pissed off but I have the same password for everything so if this is his go to password for years then I can maybe see why he has done it?

[SmarterThanTheAverageBear16]

You all must be very insecure in your relationships if this would make you furious/pissed off/upset.
It's just a password, fgs. In a good relationship it wouldn't even register.

[fascicle]

I think you're possibly reading too much into this. It's plausible that he's in the habit of using the name and therefore can remember it. None of my passwords reflect any emotional attachments.

[Pinkheart5915]

It wouldn't bother me at all, it's just a password it means nothing.

[Bohemond]

My telephone banking password is the name of someone I fancied 20 years ago when I set up the account.
My go to password is the name of a cat that dies 5 years ago.
I do not plan to change either.

[shovetheholly]

Woah, woah, woah. Hold your horses!

I have several guy friends who would do this. It doesn't necessarily mean anything apart from the fact that they are too damn lazy to be arsed to change the one password they can be bothered to remember. They just don't see it as an "emotional" issue. I know because a similar situation happened to me with a friend's laptop, and the pw was his ex-gf's name (she is also a close friend of mine). Even though it was a messy breakup with a lot of loathing on both sides, he'd just dissociated this password from meaning "her".

(NOT saying all men are like this, just that some are).