To start potty training

[fluffypacman]

My lg has had awareness of bladder control for about 6 months. She would go for a wee on the potty often before bed but has never asked to use it. Bowels she see,ms less aware of. I have held back pt as our eldest was very difficult as I think in retrospect we rushed her when at 2.5 yrs she really still had no idea so we had a few false starts and at age 4 she still sometimes gets caught out (normal in my option). Just had a row with oh. I thought she was probably ready so put her in pants for a couple of days to see how she took to it as a little trial. If not ready no fuss, try again later. Oh is very anxious about pt this time wanting to wait until she's age 3, so thought I'd do a little trial without worrying him not wanting to hold her back if she was ready as I thought. She's done really well maybe one accident a day and on Saturday said, mummy I need a wee, I want to use the potty.

She has been commando part of the day and has been taking herself to the potty as and when needed doing a big poo there yesterday. Hubby was away with work so I sent a message saying it looked like we were potty training. I have sent her to nursery today in pants and when hubby asked how did I know she was ready told him the above and that I had sent him a message as he wasn't here. He told me I should have discussed this with him first. Irelise perhaps there should have been more discussion but if anything I was trying to save him the anxiety of those first few days and his negativity around the subject (protecting my daughter also from his anxieties) and be able to start when I really knew she was ready. It was done with the best of intentions. He then proceeds to ask daughter if she would like' to wear a nappy or do it in her pants?'. I told him off for saying that feeling like he was undermining both our efforts and being slightly bullying towards her when it was me if anyone he should be cross at him that he shouldn't say that to her as she has chosen to wear pants (I did ask before putting her in them on the first day). He said he wasn't consulted and that a 2.5 year old can't make decisions. I feel this is more about his anxieties than doing what I feel our daughter is ready for and not wishing to miss a window of opportunity and also assuming both children are going to be the same. AIBU to have started this?

[Skittlesss]

No! If she wants to do it (and she sounds like she does) then embrace that! :) what a clever little girl

[FirstWeTakeManhattan]

No, she's doing fine. 2.5 is a perfectly normal age to start.

Have you tried pull up pants? NO reason to if you're fine, it was just something that helped us.

[Vinorosso74]

It sounds like she's ready and is doing well so far so I would continue now you've started. Just because her sister was ready later doesn't mean she will be.

[albertcampionscat]

YANBU to potty train at 2.5, but Y quite possibly BU to potty train when your DH (who thought you should wait) was away. That's sneaky.

[fluffypacman]

Ha ha. Possibly a bit sneaky. It was calculated as a trial without him so I could be sure she was ready and not upset him for no reason.

[wheresthel1ght]

Your DH is a loon!

We are currently potty training dd (2.7) and I didn't discuss it with dp. Just told him I had decided I was starting as I had a week off work to go at it and that was it.

Why does he feel it requires a discussion and mutual agreement?