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Engagement gift

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NotReallySureNow · 10/04/2016 21:49

Last night myself and DP were at an engagement party. The couple are good friends and we all had a great night. The party was at their home. I'm just wondering as a bit concerned our card/ gift may have got lost in the course of the evening. When we arrived DP gave the card containing a £150 voucher to the host. He thanked us (obviously didn't open card or present) and then the card was put to one side but I didn't really see.

The couple have been in touch today chatting and I would have expected they may have spent the day opening their gifts. However there has been no reference to our card/ gift. I know it's only the day after so am I jumping the gun here? Or if you were at home the day after a party would you open your cards that day or leave it until later?

The fact today is a Sunday and they'll both be working tomorrow made me think they'd open them today. They're not rude people so I'm sure if they'd received it they would have thanked us.

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WhoKnowsWhereTheT1meGoes · 10/04/2016 21:53

Maybe they had stuff to catch up with today and have planned to sit down this evening and do them over a glass of wine or similar?

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Littleallovertheshop · 10/04/2016 21:57

Wow that's a massive gift. Perhaps they're planning to send out notes and haven't opened all yet?

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NotReallySureNow · 10/04/2016 22:11

Yeah it was a much bigger gift than we would do normally but my DP is really close to them and insisted on it (even though I thought it too much). I think that's why I'm nervous about it being lost because it was so much more than we would usually give.

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Only1scoop · 10/04/2016 22:13

I'd say 'we had a lovely time but felt a little impersonal gifting the voucher but we just hadn't a clue what to get for you. I hope you find something nice'

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SoThatHappened · 10/04/2016 22:16

£150 for an engagement present. Hell fire. What are you going to give them for the wedding.

Is it really customary to give presents at every single stage?

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NotReallySureNow · 10/04/2016 22:18

SoThatHappened FWIW I agree with you but it was my DPs decision. I was a bit Confused about it but my DP else if they would putting on a big party and we should.

I can't really flag the voucher thing as a reason to get in touch as for my birthday I got a voucher from them.

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Only1scoop · 10/04/2016 22:21

Was this voucher for a store?

You could word something about that....

"We didn't have a clue what to get but know you love JL etc, hope you find something lovely"

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