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Tootsiepops Sat 09-Apr-16 20:13:55

...whilst my (legally dead) mum is in theatre donating her organs? I'm bereft. She went in for a somewhat routine operation on Wednesday, there were complications, and she's not coming home. She was declared brain dead last night. I am so lost. I didn't know the organ donation process was so lengthy. I really hope the recipients lead full and happy lives. I need something positive to cling to as right now I am struggling to get off the floor it hurts so completely.

Love you so much Mum x

PPie10 Sat 09-Apr-16 20:15:20

Oh op I'm so sorry thanks

ghostyslovesheep Sat 09-Apr-16 20:15:27

Oh my goodness sad you poor poor thing - have my hand and a huge cuddle xxxxx

Sirzy Sat 09-Apr-16 20:15:27

So sorry to hear about your mum, what a brave decision for you to have made to go for organ donation and I hope in the long run that gives you some comfort,

lordStrange Sat 09-Apr-16 20:16:02

flowers I'm so sorry.

I hope the recipients lead wonderful lives as a result of your mum too.

Coldtoeswarmheart Sat 09-Apr-16 20:16:58


Costacoffeeplease Sat 09-Apr-16 20:18:11

How awful for you

I know someone waiting for a transplant organ, and you can be sure your mum is giving a very precious gift which will be very gratefully received and treasured

scarednoob Sat 09-Apr-16 20:18:26

I've been in a v similar position and I know there are no words for the shock and disbelief. How can someone so central to your life suddenly not be there any more?

A very brave and selfless decision to donate organs and I hope it brings you some comfort. Look after yourself. I am so so sorry.

SavageBeauty73 Sat 09-Apr-16 20:18:34

Big hugs!

Organ donation saved my best friends life.

Frostybird Sat 09-Apr-16 20:18:42

I'm so sorry flowers I hope you have somebody to take care of you for the next few weeks?

It's an amazing thing your mum has done and those recipients will be part of her legacy.

Dontcallus Sat 09-Apr-16 20:18:46

Oh my. What a wonderful thing to do in your darkest moment. Hand hold here too.

cheesecheeseplease Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:06

thanks hand holding and passing the tissues op, you are by far a braver person than I would be X

RaeSkywalker Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:07

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you flowers

Quietlygoingmad67 Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:15

So sorry - what a massive shock for you. Your mum has done an amazing thing being an organ donor - sending hug and strengths flowers

twirlypoo Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:21

Oh sweetheart, thanks for you. You and your mum are doing a wonderful thing for someone and their family.

figureofspeech Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:33

Oh I am so sorry to hear this Tootsiepops Is there anyone with you? I don't think you should be alone at this time. Just sending you virtual hugs and my hand to hold. I lost me dad last year and it was and still is awful. Thinking of you.

Fredmitten Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:48

So sorry for your loss.

Lots of people make the decision not to go forward with donation due to the time it takes, but most regret that decision later.

What your mum and you have done will make a huge difference to so many people, and they will have got the life saving call they have been waiting for.

Hand holding well and truly offered.

MrsSippy Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:50

So sorry for your sudden loss OP, you are being very brave and I'm sure the recipients will be eternally thankful for the decision you made. Here, hold my hand, we'll get you through this flowers

timelytess Sat 09-Apr-16 20:19:53

flowers sending the most comforting hand-hold I can muster. she will be saving lives.

RJnomore1 Sat 09-Apr-16 20:20:06

Oh good lord what a shock and what a wonderful thing you and your mum are doing.


CombineBananaFister Sat 09-Apr-16 20:21:25

Oh my Op thats awful, so sorry for your situation. As someone with knowledge of this, She will be making many lives much much better and the recipients will be truly grateful for this forever. It will save lives, am so sorry it is at your expense sad

AlwaysDancing1234 Sat 09-Apr-16 20:22:03

Hand holding, so sorry you are going through this but your dear Mum and you are doing an amazing thing by donating the organs and they will undoubtedly save and enhance lives flowers

elastamum Sat 09-Apr-16 20:24:06

So sorry. You are doing a brave and wonderful thing which will help others in great need x

MissBeaHaving Sat 09-Apr-16 20:24:14

I'm so sorry Tootsie,
Your DM must've been a remarkable woman.
A hand to hold from me as I know this isn't easy.thanks

londonrach Sat 09-Apr-16 20:24:19

Offers hand and the biggest hug across the internet. Thank you. Your brave and very special mum is giving the most amazing gift to strangers that will change their life for the better. They will never forget her ever! Xxx

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