Allergic reaction

[SurroMummy13]

This may 'out' me but I'll risk it.

AIBU to think this is out of hand?


Back story, my daughter has been at this nursery just over a year and loves it. She's had allergic reactions before and atm in trying to figure out what causes them as its not just one thing.

I went to pick up my daughter from nursery yesterday and when I got upstairs and the most senior (not old, just the highest ranking) nursery teacher lets call her MrsT, had my daughter near the front desk.

And said to me that my daughter had just took an allergic reaction to something and she doesn't know what. Her arms was all red, had a scratch on her arm and my daughter was saying "mummy look,miss hurting"

Obviously I looked shocked as she's never taken a reaction like that before, I held my daughter arm and asked MrsT what she's been near and how long has she been like this, and why didn't the call me.

At this point MrsT started laughing hysterically and said 'its just paint, she was painting and got it up her arms'

Obviously relieved but AIBU to think that this is out of hand? I think MrsT meant it light heartedly, but still.

[insancerre]

I'm not understanding this at all?
Who is being an unreasonable and how?

[MsJamieFraser]

So she didn't have an allergic reaction she had paint on her arms? Why was your daughter saying she was hurting if she had paint on her arms?

Sport your post isn't clear at all.

[MigGril]

So was her arm red from paint? Or had she had an allergic reaction to it?

You don't say if they needed to give her any medication or not. Have you agreed that they can give medication when she needs it?

[TimeOfGlass]

So.... your child got red paint all over her arms, and instead of cleaning her up, the staff thought it would be funny to pretend the red was an allergic reaction to something?

If I've understood properly, then YANBU. Absolutely YANBU. And it's not funny either.

[SurroMummy13]

No, her arms were red because of paint. My daughter was saying it hurt because she had a scratch.

Usually when she hurts herself, even tiny things, she tells me it hurts then I kiss better and all is ok (even when she banged her head and we had a trip to A&E all I had to do is kiss her and she said it was ok not, didn't hurt)


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[SurroMummy13]

TimeOfGlass yeah you got what I meant.

Thanks.

[sothisishowitfeels]

That is very very odd behaviour on the part of the nursery . Yanbu.

[MigGril]

Yes very strange behaviour from the nursery staff and not funny at all.

[BombadierFritz]

Paint looks absolutely nothing like an allergic reaction. It looks like paint. So they really cant have meant you to believe them - did your daughter want to play a trick on you?

[SurroMummy13]

No, I will say this, there was only MrsT who was laughing at all. The other staff seemed rather uncomfortable at it.

[SurroMummy13]

To a panicking parent, it did. It wasn't 'out there' red. It was just red washed off slightly so like stained?

It wasn't difficult to wash off, I got her home and got it off with baby wipes!.

If you're being told by someone you trust that your daughter has had a reaction, you tend to believe them

[BlueCheeseandcrackers]

I'd be furious! Why would you joke about that? Completely unprofessional!

[HouseplantInvasion]

I'm actually horrified that the nursery thought that was ok. My DC has allergies and a reaction is certainly no laughing matter. I'd be having a word at the very least.

[Penfold007]

Was Mrs T trying in a very PA way to suggest you are a panicky and over anxious mother? I'd be looking for a new nursery, she was totally inappropriate.

[SurroMummy13]

Honestly I don't know.

So stressed out atm

[MakeItRain]

Completely inappropriate. The very least I would do is complain in writing. But I would be questioning this nursery's care and whether it was the right place for my dd. Allergic reactions can be frightening and dangerous. It's not a joking matter.

[NeedACleverNN]

That's not funny at all

My MIL was babysitting my dd once and called me up to ask me to bring some more clothing. Dd was being violently sick, diarrhoea and had been for hours. I was panicking and went racing round there. She was fine. It was a joke. I went apeshit. My dh went apeshit. Mil couldn't understand why

You do not joke about a child's illness or allergies

[SurroMummy13]

I thought I wasn't being unreasonable.

[KacieB]

Not unreasonable at all. Arsehole.

[ImNotThatGirl]

How weird. No YANBU at all.

[SurroMummy13]

Honestly I've not even mentioned it to my parents or my OH as I fear they'd freak at it X

[KacieB]

I'd tell your OH and I'd complain and move her (or move her, then complain).

As a fully grown adult I find my own allergies terrifying - I can't imagine having to worry about a tiny child constantly and then having someone take the piss like that, never mind someone who should bloody well be professional.

[AdrenalineFudge]

That's really not on. I can't even see how she'd think it appropriate let alone funny. I'd complain, and with good reason.

[MartinaJ]

Is Mrs.T bonkers?
I jst had a bad reaction to a meal in a restaurant. I think it was the hot chilli sauce that caused it. By the time I came to the chemist, even my ears and arms were itchy and I was unwell. This was a very light reaction and I was still feeling like crap. A serious allergic reaction is no laughing matter. Not sure how I'd react to a joke like this but there's a good chance I'd get extremely nasty.

[Booboostwo]

This is an extremely inappropriate joke in any circumstances but coming from a nursery worker it is unprofessional and disturbing. I would complain in writing.