Another argument with DM today who has criticized that I don't adapt pander to my DCs food preferences.
DC1 - hates parsnip, fusses over carrot, sweetcorn and peas
DC2 - fusses over fish, rice, leeks and pork (unless in the form of sausage)
DC3 - is my angel who eats everything
DH - doesn't like things in sauce/gravy and certain shapes of pasta
Me- don't like mushrooms, sprouts and carrot
My opinion is I will not cook different meals for us all and that I will continue to cook a range of meals including all of the above. I don't see why I should restrict everyone elses diet because one person prefers not to have it and think this will lead to the other DC becoming more fussy. Plus I think it is an important skill to learn to either discreetly eat around things you don't like or manage to politely eat a bit when presented with dishes when out etc.
So in a given week I would guess that 3 days have meals that we all like everything. then on each of the other days chances are someone will dislike/prefer not to have something on the dish. I include myself in this so I will manage to eat bolognaise with mushroom in it or a casserole with carrot in it as others in the house really like it.
I feel that this will eventually help the DC get over their fussiness (and with the exception of DC1's parsnip I believe it is just fussiness) if they continue to be presented with the foods. I never make a comment on whether they eat it or not, any complaints are met with 'its your choice, you can eat it or not'. there is always at least 3/4 of the meal that they will eat so no-one goes hungry.
DM says I'm being cruel to do this and that I shouldn't serve things I know they don't like. But how will they know if their tastebuds develop and they start liking things again if they don't have the option to try it again? So far we have got DC2 eating mashed potato and DC1 eating curry just by carrying on serving it with no punishment if its not eaten.
So do you all cater to the individual tastes? AIBU to expect my family to cope with not having their favourite meal each night??
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StarlingBirdsong · 06/04/2016 17:33
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