Have name changed. Please do not flame me. I desperately need your help. I absolutely feel I am losing it. I feel like I am losing my mind and having a breakdown. I sat and completely broke down yesterday. This is no life.
My dd used to be a lovely child. She has some additional needs including Dyspraxia and a processing disorder. She is also on the list for Camhs for Aspergers assessment. She has started puberty although not periods and she is horrendous.
She is 13. I feel like I have tried everything. Tried calmly talking to her, tried rewards, tried consequences, I have read the Explosive Child, read the Get out of my Life book, tried non confrontational. We spend quality time together, there is only us.
She is physically and verbally abusive to me continually, it is constant, if I go out of the way she follows me, if she cannot get to me she will go berserk in the house. She will not go to her room to calm down. I am sick of the constant verbal and physical abuse. I am sick of living in fear in my own home of being kicked, hit, pushed, scratched and bit, of her pulling at my clothes and hurting me and the constant put downs and being talked to like I am shit on her shoe. I am sick of being told how useless a Mum I am, how much she hates me, how worthless I am and she wishes I was not here. She is incredibly angry all the time mostly because she cannot have a life where she can do what she wants without consequence and because she has to go to school. She is definitely not being bullied there she just hates school and always has. She tells me her abusive behaviour is my own fault.
I am ashamed to say that I did lose my calm with her once in between being hit, grabbed, screamed at for four hours and said something in anger, she now uses this continually against me.
I am sick of the constant threats. If I remove her X box because of her behaviour she smashes the house up (it stays removed btw). If I ignore her she climbs all over me or grabs at me. She does not behave like this at school. She threatens me every time I make school aware how she is behaving and tells me I have ruined her life and she will not get a job or work because of me but that's fine because 'that's what you want anyway'
She says sorry when she realises she has gone massively too far but it means nothing. We are at risk of losing our home because she is screaming and banging the house down continually.
I have no support from ex and little family support.
She behaves at my parents because they will let her sit on Youtube from 5am till midnight so she has no reason to misbehave.
I am done.
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milkfreecocopops · 30/03/2016 09:48
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