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Wineandcheases Mon 28-Mar-16 09:14:39

What ever that may be !
On another thread it was suggested that we work a lot of hours and a comment of - "how do you have time for family life I hope it's worth it "- has stuck
Husband does 50 and I do Aprox 25 ( reduced as have dc )
We aren't greedy we need to live . This does give us extras but we aren't loaded so to speak .
Can I ask how many hours the adults in your family do ? Do you find it hard ?

RaskolnikovsGarret Mon 28-Mar-16 09:16:16

We both do about 50 each. Fitting this in with family life is very hard I find.

EatShitDerek Mon 28-Mar-16 09:46:52

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witsender Mon 28-Mar-16 09:51:33

We work less than most on the surface, but DH works from home most days so does odd hours around the kids.

I work 17 hrs and he works about 35-40 probably.

LaurieFairyCake Mon 28-Mar-16 09:51:51

I'm out the house 40. Dh does 60-70 (some at home like marking/planning).

Amummyatlast Mon 28-Mar-16 10:00:22

I do 35, plus some occasional freelance work. DH is a SAHD. We live fine on my salary, but I appreciate that we are lucky to be able to do this.

LeanneBattersby Mon 28-Mar-16 10:02:32

Husband does 25 and I do 15. He comes home for lunch every day (self employed) and has the youngest on the two days I work and will do so until he turns two and can go to preschool. He fits in extra odd bits of admin while the youngest is asleep and sometimes does the odd home visit to clients with the youngest in tow. I take my hat off to anyone who does more hours than we do. It's bloody hard work as it is.

It does mean we can't have fancy stuff though.

Dixiechickonhols Mon 28-Mar-16 10:03:03

I do 24 but only 2 days in office 2 at home. Dh does 39 one job but has another job he does mainly at home and 2 more unpaid work commitments involving travel. I worked yesterday and today but at home. I wear casual clothes at home it probably looks like I barely work to the neighbours. Wfh is a big help to family life.

ilovevegcrisps Mon 28-Mar-16 10:05:12

I do 35 but a bit extra as I teach. I also do a bit of private tutoring.

ClopySow Mon 28-Mar-16 10:06:31

Just me. 30 hours in four days. 1 full day studying on top of that.

gwenneh Mon 28-Mar-16 10:06:33

I do 35, DH does 35 but most of that from home. We do well enough, I suppose.

Kennington Mon 28-Mar-16 10:06:56

I do 40 not including travel. DH does well over 50. This is normal and in fact I do less than many friends. Fortunately I have. 10 min commute but do a fair amount of overseas travel - hence I look at mumsnet a lot!
Life is expensive and for the jobs we are in this isn't unusual.

LemonBreeland Mon 28-Mar-16 10:09:45

DH used to have his own business so did 60 hrs a week and I did 16. He now does 32-40 hrs night shift and I do 23. It is much more balanced and although he could work more and we could have more 'stuff', we actually appreciate having more family time after suffering for so long with so little.

OddBoots Mon 28-Mar-16 10:13:20

I think it is important to include travel time when working out these things, we have had a whole range of working hours and travel hours over the years and travel makes a huge difference.

gininteacupsandleavesonthelawn Mon 28-Mar-16 10:15:38

DP does 37-40, I do a flexible (ish) 50+ so some of that is from home/after DC in bed. It's tough, but we've only recently bought our new house so needs must

CheckpointCharlie2 Mon 28-Mar-16 10:18:01

I (currently) do about 65-70 a week and DH does the normal 35 ish. It only works because he does all the child dropping off etc and making tea and I collapse about ten o'clock. It won't be like that soon though as I am changing jobs.

LegoLady95 Mon 28-Mar-16 10:18:30

DH does about 40, 12 hour shifts days/nights. I do 18.5 hours over 3 days, around school hours but with one late finish.

LancashireTea Mon 28-Mar-16 10:19:39

Paid for 35 as a ft teacher. Must work at least 50 in total. Dd does 50 hrs per week at the childminder's but that includes my commute times. I work most of Sunday as well tutoring or marking.
OH's out of the house for 12 hours a day, but has an hour's commute each way. He has to work unpaid overtime quite a bit atm.

We get reasonable pay but are saving for a house deposit and after putting a little into savings and paying all bills, we just about break even. It's a shame that two professionals seem to be brassic all the time.

Ughnotagain Mon 28-Mar-16 10:20:37

DH does 37 (I think) which is full time in his job. I did 35 (full time in mine) but dropped to 30 when I went back after maternity leave. That's over 4 days.

MrsMook Mon 28-Mar-16 10:21:31

The DCs spend 10 hrs in childcare 5 days a week. I spend 9 hrs in school, then an extra 1-2 hours at home averaged out across the week, so 55-60? DH is easily 60 too.

I could handle teaching part time, but full time is too much pressure on our family especially as we have no support network. Unless a suitable local opportunity magically appears, I'll be leaving the profession for the time being. What I keep after childcare and student loans isn't worth the cost of my time to my young children. They deserve better than this. I have another plan forming at the back of my mind.

Artandco Mon 28-Mar-16 10:22:56

Dh and I both around 50-60hrs a week. I can be much more some weeks if travelling, less others

CalleighDoodle Mon 28-Mar-16 10:25:06

Dh 41.5 full-time
Me 45 part-time hmm

Mrsmook whats your plan?

Sallycinnamum Mon 28-Mar-16 10:25:13

DH works 35 a week with one day wfh and I work the same with two days working at home.

We fit everything in fine and wfh has been our saviour really in terms of keeping on top of the housework, doing the school run and for my wellbeing in general.

DH is planning to go freelance from September when last DC start school which is exciting and terrifying in equal measure.

I'm hoping to drop a day in the near future too or work an extra day from home.

gamerwidow Mon 28-Mar-16 10:25:26

I do 22.5 hours per week and dh does 35. Dd has had 3 days at the cm from 7.30 until 6.30 since she was 14 months and is now 5.5 years and at school.
This is more than some and less than others. I don't think it is at all uncommon for both parents to work and you shouldn't worry about what was said in the other thread OP.

CakeNinja Mon 28-Mar-16 10:25:51

Dp does either 40 or 48 depending on whether he does a Saturday. (Taken out his lunch hours!)
He then spends a lot of Sunday's doing 'love jobs' for family and friends. So sometimes 55.

I'm a SAHM and it all works fine.

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