Aibu to be so anxious about my 1 year old missing me

[Moomoomango]

Aibu - I spend mostly all day everyday in the company of my just turned one year old. If I am away from him for more than 2 hours I get incredible anxiety that he's missing me and I'm not being a good mum. Aibu or do others feel the same?

[Pigglepog]

I was like this with my twins until I returned to work (part time) when they were 8 months. I found the anxiety definitely fades although I do still miss them and think of them lots through the day.

I've watched them with their childminder and they are really happy, I also asked her to ring if they are ever upset but there's been no need. I definitely miss them more than they miss me!

I really think it's better to get them used to being with other people as pre school or school will possibly be much harder if they've only ever been with you.

[ScrumpyBetty]

YANBU, I went back to work when my LO was 14 months and I cried every morning for weeks, but to be honest I think I missed him more than he missed me, and after he settled in with the childminder, he really bonded with her and had a fab time and my worries/ anxiety went away very quickly. It is hard though if you are not used to leaving them.

[Crazypetlady]

Yanbu I feel the same
Ds is 9 months I was ill and very contagious the other day and my mum eventually talked me in to letting her watch him for a few hours to try to avoid him catching the sickness bug. He did anyway. I sobbed when he left I missed him all day. And was just watching the clock waiting for him to be dropped off. In between throwing up !

[Crazypetlady]

He did t seem too miss me too much !

[Vintage45]

I couldn't even take a shower when my first born ds was little without thinking he would be lonely So I totally understand and didn't go back to work until my first DS was 2, even then I hid behind the corner of the childminders to see what was going on. It's very natural.

When I had the second, it was very different!