Ds is 8. A few months ago he told me he had no one to play with at school, because all his friends were playing football and he didn't want to.
I spoke to his teacher and an approachable TA and asked if they'd noticed whether he was struggling with friendships. They both said not but said they'd observe him, they also explained that each class has an allocated day to play football, so they wouldn't be doing that every day. They fed back that having observed him at playtime he was playing with others and they told me who.
I might add that ds has never really taken to playing football, I've taken him to a couple of different clubs at his request, from what I've seen he's struggled to follow what's going on and he's ended up not wanting to go back because other children have laughed at him. Yet he's got all the enthusiasm and loves kicking the ball around in the garden and will happily play with another adult for ages.
More recently when I've asked him what he's done at school he's told me he's played sports with his classmates,so I just assumed he was happy and joining in.
Last night we were chatting about his day, he said he played football again, I asked who was on his team, just general chatting.
Anyway he's now told me that he wasn't on anyone's team. That the two captains pick teams and no one ever picks him. He said he's always standing there once the game has started and he asks who's team he's on and which way they're shooting and they all ignore him. So he just runs up and down. In his words he might as well be invisible.
I asked who he plays with on other days and he told me that he has to go round asking if he can play until someone lets him.
I feel so bad for him. I take him to clubs after school so he can socialise. He gets invited to quite a few parties at school. I've invited a couple of kids over but it's never been reciprocated.
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