I'm 2 weeks after my second loss. Dd2 at 22 weeks, ds at 14 weeks.
I am lucky I have dd1 who is 3.5yo.
There is no physical reason for me to not try again apart from the fact that I am now high risk for trisomies (from dd2) and possibly high risk for unexplained late loss (there seems to be no explaination for ds death, that may change after test results but it's unlikely)
I'm done. I cannot go through this again. I put everything into this pregnancy, tried so hard to engage and reduce my anxiety, did everything right. It was so positive then suddenly he was gone.
I desperately want to give dd1 a live sibling. I desperately want another. The risk is too high. I can't put myself, dh or dd1 through the stress of ttc, pregnancy after loss to possibly end up in this situation. I don't want to keep explaining this to people who flippantly say 'never say never' or 'don't decide now'.
It might not happen, people told me it wouldn't happen a second time.
I'm just so sad. I'm grieving for ds, for the family I won't have and for all those happy pregnancy and baby moments (and I hate being pregnant!). I wish I'd known dd1s firsts would also be lasts. I wish I'd appreciated my normal pregnancy with her and her baby years.
I feel this sadness right down to my core.
Sorry that was long. I think I just needed to get it out.
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KittyandTeal · 22/03/2016 15:42
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