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Aibu to book them a taxi instead?

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Coffeethrowtrampbitch Mon 21-Mar-16 18:41:15

Dh's parents are coming up to see us and the dc next weekend.
Mil phoned yesterday and told dh what time their flight was so that dh could pick them up. She also said that they would need to buy Easter eggs for the children so he would have to stop by a supermarket.

Ordinarily, this would not be a problem at all of course, but the day of their flight is ds2's fifth birthday. Dh has taken a day off work so that we can go out and then be home in the early evening for visitors. He does not normally get home until 7pm due to a long commute for a new job, and is really missing time with the kids. Running PIL to the airport and supermarket will take over two hours, their flight gets in at half six.

I wasn't happy but reasoned that PIL were just excited to see DC on his birthday and hadn't considered that we had plans or that dh wanted to spend time with ds2. Then dh told me that he was unsure they would even come to ours that night, as the last time they took this flight they went straight to their hotel as they were tired, and saw us the following day.

I want to book them a taxi and pay for it instead, and offer to run them from their hotel if they want to come up on Friday night. It is only 2 minutes by car and would mean dh wouldn't miss any time with ds2.

Dh thinks they will find this rude and it isn't worth the aggravation. He is cross about missing time with DS, but thinks that the fall out if they think we have been rude will be worse.
For background, dh and I have a distant relationship with pil, they live far away and were not close to dh growing up. We are very different people from each other in lots of ways. They are good grandparents and our three DC are their only grandchildren, dh is an only child.

So sorry for the length blush for something so trivial, aibu to get them a taxi instead?

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings Mon 21-Mar-16 19:02:31

Yanbu!

TravellingLoon Mon 21-Mar-16 19:07:54

I would ask them where they intend to stay that night - if they want to go straight to a hotel, say no problem, we'll book you a taxi as it's DSs bday and we want to make sure we spend as much time as poss with him. If they say your house, personally I would go and get them (as annoying as it might be) as they will have all their luggage etc so it's prob easier to keep it all in the car before going to the hotel later. Just my opinion though, I probably wouldn't go any get them if they didn't want to even see you that day.

stitch10yearson Mon 21-Mar-16 19:10:45

My parents used to insist we send a taxi as it was simpler than us trying to pick them up.

MoreGilmoreGirls Mon 21-Mar-16 19:12:00

Book a taxi it's your child's birthday. Can't believe they think it's ok to drag your DH out for 2 hours.

bloodyteenagers Mon 21-Mar-16 19:12:04

If it wasn't a birthday and so he had taken the day off, what would happen? A taxi or he leave work earlier?

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone Mon 21-Mar-16 19:21:35

Definitely book a taxi, but how are you gonna pay for it if they go straight to the hotel? Not having a go, just raising the practicalities.

Bejeena Mon 21-Mar-16 19:24:12

Book them a taxi.

I say this but I have the same situation with my own husband and in-laws, he takes days off work so he can run them to the airport but hardly ever takes a day for family time unless we are going away on holiday

SouthWesterlyWinds Mon 21-Mar-16 19:32:04

Friday night means they can still get Easter eggs Saturday morning. No need for the taxi to stop at a supermarket

Coffeethrowtrampbitch Mon 21-Mar-16 20:08:55

Thanks everyone smile.

TravellingLoon your answer makes the most sense but our relationship is really that distant that it would be an awkward conversation. Nonetheless I think it's one we will have to have. <tosses weighted coin with dh>

Last time they drove up when dh could not meet them at the airport, before he learned to drive two years ago they took taxis.
The taxi office is a five minute walk away so I can pop in and book it and pre pay it, will be easier than the phone convo wink

Inertia Mon 21-Mar-16 20:34:21

Book it, pay upfront, present as fait accompli.

MadamDeathstare Mon 21-Mar-16 20:39:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MidniteScribbler Mon 21-Mar-16 20:52:50

I think it needs to be your DH's choice. They're his parents and his time.

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