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MissusWrex Sat 19-Mar-16 08:02:59

I was discharged from hospital yesterday.

As a bit of background I have had a number of miscarriages, one quite late on which had to do with problems with my placenta.

I wasn't really happy with my discharge and felt I still had a lot of unanswered questions and concerns (ward doctor just told the midwife outside it was ok for me to go, didn't come in to explain everything. The midwife was newish I think and tried but didn't know any of my history and didn't know much for certain.

So I've sent this email to my consultant (nightmare to get on the phone) I haven't slept or ate since my discharge, just feel incredibly anxious and to be honest would rather just get him out where he can be looked after! I'm 34 1/2 weeks.

My friend said it sounded like I was second guessing professionals and they would probably get the hump with my. I thought I was just expressing my concerns but am a bit worried now.

I'll paste it here with details taken out. What do you think?

'Dear Consultant,

My name is Miss Wrex and I'm one of your Ante Natal clinic patients.

I was discharged from ward (number) yesterday afternoon but have been feeling very anxious since, though I'm not sure if this is due to previous history or if I am right to be.

I was admitted on Wednesday night with a very hard and uncomfortable stomach (it stayed rock hard for a quite a few hours, did not get softer at any point during this period), pain behind my cessation scar and back cramps.

Ctg monitors were fine, baby's heartbeat was fine and he was moving as usual.

Yesterday I was discharged after having a scan in the afternoon that showed there was a good blood flow through my umbilical cord but that the baby has now got static growth (AC measurement). I've had a first dose of steroids and will be coming back for a second dose this afternoon. Also I was told I'd have ctg monitors twice a week and anc every two weeks (? I think that's the right way around!).

The thing is I can't shake the feeling something is wrong and have become very anxious. This is mainly because the first doctor I spoke to on triage mentioned that sometime if the is a problem with the placenta that it can cause the hard stomach (this has happened a couple of times since but only stayed hard for between an hour/ 2 hours since) which was identified as a possible cause with my late miscarriage and that I would have a Doppler scan to check the placenta. Which I haven't had. He also said that because I'd had a previous bleed behind my placenta that it could possibly happen again so they would keep me in to check.

Also since late morning yesterday I have noticed a big reduction in baby's movements. I was put on a ctg monitor yesterday evening and his heart beat was ok and he had four movements on the monitor so they said it was ok. He usually has between 20/30 movement on the monitors and each time when he has his active periods through the day or night, I used to find it reassuring he was so active!

This has dropped to between 8 that I've managed to count so far since leaving yesterday afternoon. Is this still enough or should I be concerned that it's not at all like his usually patterns for the last two months? He moved a total of 12 times yesterday that I could feel when it usually would be much more than this. Could a hard stomach have anything to do with this or mean I can't feel him as well as previously?

I apologise for all the questions but I didn't get much chance to speak to a doctor before I left and am unsure if I'm being over anxious because of previous losses or am right to feel something is wrong. I'm just so very worried about anything happening to him while he is in there.

Thank you,

Miss Wrex'

Burgerbobismydad Sat 19-Mar-16 08:05:28

Don't bother with the letter. If you have reduced movements, go back in. Even if you were only there yesterday. Just go back.

GoofyIsACow Sat 19-Mar-16 08:06:53

I think it's fine, i am sorry you are feeling so anxious and i hope everything goes well flowers

GoofyIsACow Sat 19-Mar-16 08:07:19

And yes i agree with burger

LunaLunaLovegood Sat 19-Mar-16 08:07:32

I think you should get medical advice now. I'm sure everything will be fine but you have so many questions and it's always worth getting checked when movements have changed. Good luck flowers

RoboticSealpup Sat 19-Mar-16 08:07:41

I agree. Go back to have him monitored. I had reduced movements twice with no other symptoms, or any history of any issues and they took me seriously.

annandale Sat 19-Mar-16 08:07:44

I'm with Burger.

Imnotacelebgetmeouttahere Sat 19-Mar-16 08:07:52

^ what pp said. Reduction in movements needs checking. Given the history request a Doppler scan and don't leave until it's done.

ILoveMyMonkey Sat 19-Mar-16 08:07:53

I think it sounds fine.

Sorry you're having a bad time of it.

I would suggest that if you're really worried about movements etc then go back to the hospital and get re-checked and keep on nagging them until they take your concerns seriously.

Rushyswife Sat 19-Mar-16 08:08:14

Go back now. Make a fuss if necessary but get scanned, get checked by s consultant and don't let them discharge you till you are happy.

RoboticSealpup Sat 19-Mar-16 08:08:51

You can call the unit first, but they'll probably say to come, to be on the safe side.

MissusWrex Sat 19-Mar-16 08:08:53

The thing is burger I actually had reduced movements while I was there in the ward but because he moved four times towards the end of the ctg monitoring they said that was fine?

Because of this I'm unsure if it is just me overreacting because I am currently very anxious. The midwife doing the monitoring seemed to think I was being silly, even though he didn't move during the first 20 minutes of monitoring.

Hamsolo Sat 19-Mar-16 08:09:23

Ditto what Burgerbob said. (Your letter is absolutely fine by the way - I wouldn't worry about having sent it). Reduced movement should always be checked out so just phone your midwife team and arrange to go in again this morning.

MoggieMaeEverso Sat 19-Mar-16 08:10:02

Yes, go back in right now.

MissusWrex Sat 19-Mar-16 08:10:52

Ok thank you, will give them a ring and tell them it's still reduced.

It's just such a huge change from his usual patterns I was surprised that the midwife wasn't really concerned at all. She just said ' Well you've felt him now, so he's fine'

Jollyphonics Sat 19-Mar-16 08:11:01

I agree with Burger and I'm a GP, if that makes a difference.

FrogletinaBallerina Sat 19-Mar-16 08:11:26

I've had my DC in two different areas and all MWs had told me if at any point you feel there is problems with movement then they would rather you go in than not - even if you went in everyday. The MW shouldn't have made you feel silly. Please do go back in.

SmallBee Sat 19-Mar-16 08:11:35

Agree with Burger. Go back in right now for reduced movement and keep going back in until you are happy.
Don't ignore your instincts even if it does mean you end up being rude. Which I don't think you are.
No one else will fight your corner on this so you need to be the one to do it.

Good luck and keep us updated with going back in.

seastargirl Sat 19-Mar-16 08:11:40

Please go back and keep going back whenever you are not happy with movements.

The email is absolutely fine and hopefully they may have read it before seeing you.

I hope you're now on your way to be checked over.

DartmoorDoughnut Sat 19-Mar-16 08:11:49

If you're at all concerned go back in. Sending good thoughts flowers

MissusWrex Sat 19-Mar-16 08:11:56

And thanks for the confirmation re: letter.

Friend was quite insistent I shouldn't have sent it.

SingingMyOwnSpecialSong Sat 19-Mar-16 08:12:33

Send the email so you have a written record of communicating your concerns, who cares if he is insulted. If nothing else you are anxious because of your history and deserve more sympathetic care.

Then call midwife and insist on going back in for monitoring, push for a Doppler scan. I can understand them wanting to keep baby in as long as possible, but his lack of movements sound worrying. I have no medical training but everything I have read, kicks count, etc suggest listening to your instincts.

Hope all goes ok for you.

TheCrimsonPleb Sat 19-Mar-16 08:12:51

Agree that you should go and get seen and put these concerns directly to the doctor. They are legitimate concerns and I don't agree with your friend that they are undermining the professional opinion of the medics.

LucyMouse Sat 19-Mar-16 08:13:32

Yes I would go back if you're experiencing reduced movements. It doesn't matter if they think you're being silly; you know what is normal for your baby.

MissusWrex Sat 19-Mar-16 08:14:48

I'm currently waiting for a lift. I couldnt get through so just going to try ringing on the way.

The midwife who discharged me said the doctor who had come round had said the same thing re:movements when I said again it was really no where near how much he has moved in the last two months.

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