Birthday sickness

[Helsbellsnch34]

It's ds1's birthday, he is 4. It's also my birthday, he woke up at 3am with a tummy ache and crying. He got in for a cuddle (I'm currently sleeping next to Ds2's cot on a floor mattress to help him sleep in the cot) and he was sick all over himself and me. Poor thing is very rarely sick so finds it very upsetting, daddy swooped in and cleaned him up, taking him back to our bed whilst I calmed ds2 (22 months) and fed baby (9 weeks) back to sleep. I'm so sad that we'll now have to cancel our family brunch and his birthday party at soft play. He's been so excited to have a party and has asked to have one for months, ds2's sleep has gone to pot since the baby arrived leaving us tired and short tempered, I've been looking forward to reconnecting over our birthday, he's been a trooper with the new baby arriving and I'm sad he's going to miss the party. Also unsure of the etiquette, we've paid for soft play, should we just send his friends anyway? It's no refundable so seems a shame to cancel for them.

[Rpj16]

Aaw can't you postpone? If his friends went anyway I think that's not nessersary but the other kids mums would find that very touching and nice. Hope he feels better. And congrats on new baby!

[NattyTile]

Is he poorly poorly though or is he stressy poorly from it being his birthday?

I'd give it a few hours and see how he goes; if he's bouncing and eats breakfast later then I'd go ahead. But then I have a child who vomits at the drop of a hat, and it's never a bug.

[Helsbellsnch34]

Most likely he'll be fine when he wakes but I know we can't risk it. I think I'll re book another party (oh won't want to pay twice) as he's going to be so upset, but there are some parents numbers I don't have, the venue is a 20 minute drive, and their siblings are coming too, it just seems a massive shame to waste it all when they'll keep our money anyway! Best laid plans and all that 🙄

[Helsbellsnch34]

Natty he's very rarely sick, can count on one hand how many times since he was born so doubt it's just excitement unfortunately 👎

[MidniteScribbler]

If you're going to be out of pocket anyway, I'd let the parents take their kids to the soft play, but just cancel the birthday part of the event with the venue (cake, happy birthday balloons, whatever else is birthday related). Have something with all the birthday bits later when he is well.

[MyNewBearTotoro]

Oh poor DS :( But I agree you can't risk it - nobody wants vomit in the ball-pool!

I would contact the parents you can and explain DS is ill so won't be there but if it's non-refundable say they are free to still attend. Also inform them you plan to re-book the party for another day as DS was so excited. Some parents might offer to pay their child's costs this time if there will be two parties (I would do this) so maybe you won't have to fork out the full cost twice. Also the other children will be excited so seems a shame to let them down alongside your DS if you're paying anyway.

What rotten luck though :( Hope your DS recovers quickly and you're able to make today special for him.

[Bodicea]

Oh that sucks. I went to a birthday party last year for a 3 year old who was sick. I think it was v last minute as we didn't know till we got there. She still had the party for everyone ( sensory soft play just us plus party games and food after all done by her and her parents ). Everything but the cake. It was appreciated by everyone. Personally I would have just told people they could use the soft play and not bothered with the food and party games as would have upset me to much.

[RaskolnikovsGarret]

My DD had a joint party with a friend, but was ill and missed it. I think you should go ahead for everyone else and have a smaller thing later when DS is better. We did that and it was fine. Hope DS feels better soon.

[Hackedabove]

I would contact the party venue and see if they'll let you postpone. I'm sure they don't want a sick child in their venue.

Poor you on your birthday too.

I spent mine in A&E a fortnight ago with DS1 who broke his collar bone. Was a bit boring, but got me out of work.

Happy birthday!

[Witchend]

Phone the venue and ask if you can postpone. They may let you

[Ginxed]

Phone the venue. This happened to us last year and we were able to move the party at no extra cost, venue were lovely about it,
I was also missing a couple of parents' numbers and other parents contacted them for me, within an hour everyone knew it was postponed.
I even managed to freeze the cakes (two cakes, I have twins) and they were fine on the new party date.

[Helsbellsnch34]

Thanks all, feeling better about it all. He has opened his presents but is very poorly. No joy with venue so taking ds2 whilst daddy stays home with sleeping poorly boy, thankfully he has forgotten about the party (so far) so hoping we can get another one soon. I managed to pop for lunch with my mum, sister and the babe so feeling grateful!

[Trollicking]

Oh shame, your poor DS. I hope he feels better soon. It's just one of those things isn't it.

Happy Birthday to you too.