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bollocksontheinternet Fri 18-Mar-16 09:53:53

If your twelve year old was put on after school detention for forgetting his cooking ingredients? Detention one hour after school.

Bunbaker Fri 18-Mar-16 09:54:38

Suck it up. DD's school would do this.

19lottie82 Fri 18-Mar-16 09:54:46

Seems fair enough to me. What's the problem?

SaucyJack Fri 18-Mar-16 09:54:57

Say "I told you so?"

Is there a backstory to this non-event?

firesidechat Fri 18-Mar-16 09:54:59

I would be fine about.

bollocksontheinternet Fri 18-Mar-16 09:56:01

Yes, I was thinking that would be the normal reaction - probably to laugh at them and say 'serves you right?'
Just thinking about something that happened once.

Imnotaslimjim Fri 18-Mar-16 09:56:09

Did they forget them? Or did you not supply them? If the former, the detention is fair.

firesidechat Fri 18-Mar-16 09:56:15

What do you think?

I'm guessing, not so fine.

firesidechat Fri 18-Mar-16 09:57:03

Just thinking about something that happened once.

You can't leave it there. We need to know.

MartinaJ Fri 18-Mar-16 09:58:52

They were supposed to bring them. They didn't. At 12, they are old enough to be able to note it down and not forget. Sounds OK.

Brightnorthernlights Fri 18-Mar-16 09:59:05

Pretty normal round here. Comes under the 'not being prepared for or forgetting equipment for a lesson'.

Must be frustrating for the teacher, the practical is missed, homework, which is usually how I could have achieved a better result, is missed and subsequent theory incomplete.

bollocksontheinternet Fri 18-Mar-16 10:00:13

Sorry fireside, I probably should have expanded more in my op! Just worried now people are going to get a bit funny about it. It wasn't even me, it was my sibling and just our mum went berserk about it, screaming and shrieking 'oh no, no no no no!' for ages.

I have pretty much concluded my parents were mad hmm but when it's your only yardstick it's hard to really process if in terms of your own family.

DawnOfTheDoggers Fri 18-Mar-16 10:00:17

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

firesidechat Fri 18-Mar-16 10:04:59

Yes a definite over reaction from your mum and a bit bonkers. I hope that helps.

Arfarfanarf Fri 18-Mar-16 10:05:01

sounds like your mum was a bit of a drama llama, grin

I'd say well , this is what happens, you know the rule.

firesidechat Fri 18-Mar-16 10:07:34

Really Dawn?

Detention is such a minor punishment and it might teach the child to be more careful in future. As long as the punishment is not OTT I think it's a good idea to support the school in maintaining discipline.

Bunbaker Fri 18-Mar-16 10:07:49


Good luck with that then. If your child(ren) ever get a detention and you refuse it they will be put into isolation during the day, thus impacting on their learning.

They had better make sure they don't do anything to earn a detention then.

Pollyputhtekettleon Fri 18-Mar-16 10:13:07

Dawn I think it would be much better for your children to learn consequences than for you to teach them your 'them and us' attitude about authority. It won't help them in their future workplaces or frankly with their attitude in general. These situations are so important for a child's learning. Whether it's about responsibility, respect or even (un)fairness.

gamerchick Fri 18-Mar-16 10:14:33

Really dawn ? You would be ok with them being put into isolation for a whole day for refusing a detention?

curren Fri 18-Mar-16 10:16:46

As a parent I would be very 'me about it. She forgot it, not the end of the world. Not like they tried to burn the school down.

My mum however would have gone mad.

Foxyloxy1plus1 Fri 18-Mar-16 10:54:29

So far as I am aware, the requirement is for parents to be informed of the detention, but it is not a choice.

Dawn I think that you are teaching your children that there are no consequences to their actions and as gamer says, the consequence will take place during the school day. An after school detention although a relatively minor thing, has more impact because it interferes with their free time. Rights come with responsibilities.

ctjoy103 Fri 18-Mar-16 10:59:21

Dawn that's being a bad parent. So basically you are teaching them there's no consequences and mummy will make it ok? Good luck to that.

QuiteLikely5 Fri 18-Mar-16 11:01:39

School prepares for adulthood.

Don't do what you should = punishment

Support the school

VocationalGoat Fri 18-Mar-16 11:06:06

They get detention in DS's school for less.
Believe me, tempting as it is to want to coddle our kids and fight their corner, detention is not a bad thing at all. It drives the point home and reinforces the ability to think/plan ahead.

shovetheholly Fri 18-Mar-16 11:27:10

You got me thinking bollocks - I think it used to be more of a kind of moral judgement than maybe it is now. My Mum went mental the first time I got a detention. She got over it and soon got used to my school day lasting til 5 grin

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