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To be fed of friend never cancelling when the family is infectious.

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cosmickitten Mon 14-Mar-16 08:59:14

Have a rare day off and plans to meet up with some friends and their toddlers.

My friends family has had a rough run with lots of nasty bugs this winter. I understand she has cabin fever. However after telling her child has had a very upset stomach and has been vomiting every 2 hrs since Wednesday, yesterday. It seems she is fine to come along today.

It's becoming a bit of trend as last time I saw her she was very poorly ( in bed for a week poorly just got up for the meet up) and we all got ill after ( which have been totally unrelated I know)

Of course life goes on with coughs and cold ect but nasty bugs that lay you up surely you should steer clear of social events?

Only1scoop Mon 14-Mar-16 09:02:09


Sounds like she'll be there though so....I'd give her and her germs a miss.

HPsauciness Mon 14-Mar-16 09:04:58

I would just cancel. I can't take more time off work at the moment, so meeting up to spread vomiting bugs isn't something I'd want to do, however nice to meet up.

I usually solve this by texting the person if we have a virus or bug and letting them make up their own mind. Most people are sensible, and don't then not come for a sniffle or cold, but do avoid nastier viruses (flu, bad cold) and vomiting bugs.

I would say no, let's meet another time!

cosmickitten Mon 14-Mar-16 15:10:23

Have cancelled sitting in garden enjoing the sun

monkeymamma Mon 14-Mar-16 16:06:15

Good for you kitten. This is my absolute pet hate, so many otherwise good friends of mine do this and one even put my 2 month old at risk (he ended up with horrific virus which went on for nearly 2months and meant he didn't sleep more than an hour at a time till he was nearly 1). Glad ur skipping a dose of her horrid bugs.

cosmickitten Mon 14-Mar-16 16:47:31

Oh monkey your poor little boy how selfish!

TooGood2BeFalse Mon 14-Mar-16 17:01:35

I suffer massively from cabin fever, I hate being stuck in for more than a day and look forward to 'events'/meet ups with a lot of excitement (can you tell I don't get out much? wink ) but I never risk spreading my son's or my own germs to anybody, and my friends and family are almost religious about doing the same. I see you have cancelled now, but maybe in the future just make it as clear as possible e.g. 'Is your DS/DD/you definitely ok now?Only asking cos my DC has only just got over XYZ and I'd hate him/her to get poorly's hard work when they're poorly isn't it?!' Easier said than done I know,but you should be able to say things like that as it's a perfectly reasonable question. Add in extra smileys or kisses via text if you're shy

TooGood2BeFalse Mon 14-Mar-16 17:02:58

And wow, monkey, that's awful I can't believe anyone would be so selfish with a tiny newborn angry poor you

cosmickitten Mon 14-Mar-16 17:40:22

Toogood I know your right, the thing she is very emotional and will be very upset however I word it. She is a lovely lovely lady and in all other ways a great friend.

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