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To not like people?

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ShamefulPlaceMarker Sat 12-Mar-16 22:20:06

I think I'm getting less tolerant with age, and find myself just hating people more & more.
Not necesserely a person, I have lots of friends and keen to make new friends or chat at playgroups with mums and stuff.
I mean just generally, people. Most I seem to come across in the street, on walks, in school grounds etc just seem to be grumpy, miserable, arguementative.... Not usually with me as I keep my head down, but you can hear them shouting at their kids/bus driver/ other fellow drivers etc.
I think I'm at a point were I'd rather just always keep my head down and not smile at anyone!

FlyingRussianUnicorn Sat 12-Mar-16 22:24:05

Im pretty pissed off at the human race at the moment OP. You are who you are- unless you are being outright nasty to people then crack on I say 👍🏻

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Sat 12-Mar-16 22:25:06

I prefer cats 🐱

VoldysGoneMouldy Sat 12-Mar-16 22:26:55

I much prefer animals and fictional characters grin YANBU.

ShamefulPlaceMarker Sat 12-Mar-16 22:29:32

I quite like my own little world and my own little bubble, with my family, friends, job & activities going on. No body else outside of my little bubble cares about me, what I do, what I wear etc. Unless I was mean, which I'm not.
I don't care about other people out of my bubble, unless they needed help.
So why do some people feel the need to outwardly judge, be argumentative etc to people they don't know!

PerspicaciaTick Sat 12-Mar-16 22:33:54

I seem to spend an unedifying amount of time thinking "Fuck you, you unutterable arsewipe" at random annoying people.
So far it has stayed inside my head.

7Days Sat 12-Mar-16 22:35:26

This just shows how negativity spreads. One person shouts at another, 3 people hear, 5 people walk off a bit more miserable, and a bit more liable to snap at aomeone else, and on it goes.
Reverse it, try and focus on the dozens of pleasant interactions you witness each day. And be a warm and pleasant person yourself.
Twee maybe, but if the mechanism works for spreading misery it will work for spreading well being

ShamefulPlaceMarker Sat 12-Mar-16 22:35:54

Yes perspic me too!

ShamefulPlaceMarker Sat 12-Mar-16 22:38:27

Sounds like a plan 7days
I do wonder though if people are jusy becoming more grumpy and less patient. It's like anything small such as accidentally bumping in to someone, or being given the wrong change in a shop can set people off.

AgentZigzag Sat 12-Mar-16 22:38:46

YANBU, I totally agree with you, but is it a bit rich of you to say you don't know why some people feel the need to outwardly judge people they don't know when you hate all those people you don't know and judge them to be 'grumpy, miserable, arguementative'? grin

AgentZigzag Sat 12-Mar-16 22:41:00

You're also only focusing on the loud ranty interactions people have, there are probably many more nice gentle acts of kindness you don't hear and see around you all day every day.

FithColumnist Sat 12-Mar-16 22:41:44

I'm not keen myself. I don't even particularly like myself.

ShamefulPlaceMarker Sat 12-Mar-16 22:44:00

Yes agent, but it's the outwardly judging to that person that I would never do. I would never tell someone to their face that they are grumpy.

pinkyredrose Sat 12-Mar-16 22:47:33

I'm with you OP. I find cats.much preferable than people. In fact I don't think I've ever met a cat I haven't liked.

PaulAnkaTheDog Sat 12-Mar-16 22:47:59

People are dicks.

'nuff said.

ShamefulPlaceMarker Sat 12-Mar-16 22:50:40

There are probably lots of nice deeds going on. But all I see are miseries, generally day to day.
I was driving in to a carpark yesterday and there was a woman blocking the entrance, I couldn't get past as I didn't want to trust my judgement and squeeze past risking scratching my car (it was a hire car, so didn't know it well to judge). I waited behind the driver, who waved her arms at me in the rear view mirror, then manouvered a bit further in. I squeezed past and she wound her window down and started yelling that I was being pathetic and you could get a bus through there, then she wound her window up. It made me so cross that some random stranger would quite happily be such an arse!
It is the last straw and now I officially hate people!

ArgyMargy Sat 12-Mar-16 22:55:35

Yep. People are mainly scum. YANBU.

AgentZigzag Sat 12-Mar-16 22:59:04

But the people who are 'shouting at their kids/bus driver/ other fellow drivers etc.' aren't outwardly judging either, they're just letting rip saying what's on their mind.

I don't agree with shouting about and getting riled in the street but sometimes other people need informing that they're being twats (apart from DC, I'm really not keen on seeing DC being yelled at)

I'm not being obtuse, I just can't see the connection you're making between people in general getting arsey with people in general being judgey.

ghostyslovesheep Sat 12-Mar-16 22:59:57

I have a low tolerance for the company of most humans - I accepted long ago I was a crabby misanthrope - I can cope with my mates in small doses - they know, if we go away, I NEVER share a room and need to be left alone 80% of the time

This fact about me surprises casual acquaintances as I appear to be sociable and kind and friendly - I am - for short periods!

WonderingAspie Sat 12-Mar-16 23:02:19

YANBU. I feel this way a lot. People are mainly twats who are just dicking about and in my way. grin

I do like my friends and some of my family though and people who make me laugh.

Maryz Sat 12-Mar-16 23:04:58

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

FlyingRussianUnicorn Sat 12-Mar-16 23:05:53

I dont understand it either OP.

Im a nice girl- sure, i have my momentd (as we all do) but im more than happy to get on with anyone and always put others before myself whether that be family, friend or stranger. There are people in this world who have been outwardly vile towards me, and while we will never be friends id help them if they needed it. Because its who I am.

People do take advantage of that, but I wont let them change me.

lorelei9 Sat 12-Mar-16 23:13:10

ghosty, are you me? grin just had holiday with mates last month and it was unthinkable to share a room!

OP - interesting. I don't like people at all. I have withdrawn and stay home as much as possible. It has made me more tolerant - because I'm not constantly on people overload IYSWIM.

I would never excuse the person shouting at the bus driver or whatever. I do think it happens more often because we are all completely peopled out, whether we know it or admit it. I'm often amazed at how lovely people like bus drivers or supermarket cashiers are considering the shit they deal with all day.

have you seen the TFL advert about road rage and slowing down? I live in London - I don't drive but if I did I think the ad would make me more angry!

I think the increase in population (worldwide) is bound to make this happen. I honestly don't think people are designed to be surrounded by people all the livelong day. Don't get me started on open plan offices!

VocationalGoat Sat 12-Mar-16 23:13:17

Actually most people are really decent, but struggling. You get what you give. Give warmth, you spread good energy and it's infectious. I am strung out and pretty unhappy most days. I'm struggling. But I ALWAYS take a moment to acknowledge bus drivers, the people behind tills, help out the elderly, etc. A smile and warmth is what I need from people. I imagine most people need some TLC from their fellow man. We're all just getting by.

confusedandemployed Sat 12-Mar-16 23:13:31

Ok an opposing view: mainly, people are nice.

Try it

You might like it.

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