To have expected the head to ring TONIGHT

[owlsintheflowerpatch]

Have name changed as this will out me.

A child in dc year brought a knife into school yesterday. They showed the knife to the kids on their table before form. Dc described it as a pen knife with tools. He was showing off the knife bit. A boy on the table said he was going to report to the year head.

Today as dc and a friend were queuing for assembly and as everyone was pushing and shoving to get in the hall my dc was pushed and accidently bumped into the child who had had the knife the day before.

The child turned round and told my dc and their friend that if they pushed him again he would get them with the knife.

My dc has tried to find the year head but was unable to, dc has sen and is very shy and has issues approaching adults so did not feel comfortable approaching anyone else.

Dc rang me as soon as they came out of the gates to tell me, I rang school, the head and year head were apparently with the child after they had found out about the knife from the boy who said he would report. They were unaware until then that my dc had been threatened.
They did not speak to me at all (may have been with parents) and told me that they would speak to my dc on Monday and call me after then.

AIBU to think given the seriousness of the nature of the incident that someone should have phoned me after the meeting with the child if only to reassure me it was being dealt with and reassure my dc rather than a message through the office member and leaving us to stew all weekend or am I over reacting because I am cross about the incident?

[queenoftheworld93]

Surely they won't be able to deal with it until the weekend is over anyway? How old is your DC

[Narp]

I think you are over-reacting because you are cross about the incident

They said they'd speak to your son on Monday and all you afterwards. Your son is not in any danger and you know it's in hand.

[Witchend]

I would expect them to be dealing with the issue of this boy rather than you. You can't be told what they're doing to the lad anyway.

[JennyOnAPlate]

I would have expected a phone call this evening too...mainly for reassurance that my child would be safe in school on Monday!

Have you reported the incident to the police op? I absolutely would.

[owlsintheflowerpatch]

Secondary age. I suspect I am over reacting because I am upset but even a rest assured we are taking it seriously would have been welcome.

[Narp]

Unless you have reason to believe they aren't taking it seriously, then I'd assume they are taking it seriously. It is really serious and I can see why you are upset

[TheFairyCaravan]

I'm on the fence.

I can completely understand why you're very concerned and worried about your child and want the school to do something today. However if they were dealing with the other child they couldn't really.

[RubbleBubble00]

The school are dealing with this boy, Monday is fine

[teeththief]

They were with the other child so it is obviously being dealt with in one way or another. However, I understand how upset you must be and would take DS to school early myself on Monday and ask to see the head to reassure your DS/you before school starts

[yorkshapudding]

I can understand why you are upset but I don't think there's any reason to believe that school aren't taking the incident seriously. They have assured you they will speak to your DS and then update you on Monday. As it's Friday and they will most likely be spending this afternoon/evening dealing with the boy who was in possession of the knife, informing his parents, and updating any other agencies who may be involved with the family, formulating a risk management plan, deciding what consequences to impose on this young person, potentially considering a referral to social care, not to mention documenting everything I'm not surprised they didn't feel able to commit to ringing you tonight.

[EveOnline2016]

You will not be told anything. What ever happened to the boy it will be a data protection issue and apart from police/ss and parents no one else will know.

[NotMeNotYouNotAnyone]

Yab(a bit)u because the head and other senior staff are probably busy dealing with the child concerned and police and his parents etc. You know they're taking it seriously, but your concern it understandable

[bakeoffcake]

Of course they should phone you!

Your son has been threatened with being attacked with a knife. You and your DS should be reassured that the boy is being dealt with, being monitored and that your son is safe to come to school.

I would be keeping him off on Monday until you find out what has happened, or go in with him on Monday morning and ask to speak to the head, with your son.

[EweAreHere]

It's the weekend, and they've said they'll talk to your DS on Monday. He's in no danger until then, as he's with you.

It is serious, and I'm sure it will be taken care of Monday. BUT, if it's not taken seriously, call the police if the child with the knife is 10 or older and report the incident and the threat towards your child.

[cuntycowfacemonkey]

It is serious and they are dealing with it. I think phoning you after the weekend is fine.

[IthinkIamsinking]

YABU. They have said they will call you on Monday after speaking to your DC. Not sure what else you would expect at this stage. All sorts of things could be going on regarding this boy and that could well have taken a lot of time.

[owlsintheflowerpatch]

Ok I am obviously unreasonable. I accept that.
They were dealing with the child in concern to the knife being in school. They had no idea at that point that my dc had been threatened until I rang and I was half expected them to ring back after the boy had been spoken to to ask details but obviously I am BU. Fair enough 😊

I'm not expecting them to give exact details about the child and what happens btw. I know they can't.

[bakeoffcake]

Ewe but the OP won't know if it's been taken seriously until Monday night, by which time it might be too late!

I can't believe the number of people who are saying "you're over reacting". Are you seriously saying that if your child had been threatened like this, you'd happily send him to school the next day, without knowing what had been done?

Something like this actually happened to my Neice. Her parents where spoken to by the Head the same evening with huge reassurance that the issue had been dealt with and that all teachers were aware of what had happened.

[bakeoffcake]

You aren't being unreasonable owl

[tacal]

I don't think you are being unreasonable. I would feel the same as you

[coffeeisnectar]

bakeoff the Op won't know 'what has been done' because whatever happens to the other child is none of her business.

What is her business is her own child. The school are aware of what has happened. They are dealing with it. The first priority for them is talking to the other child, his parents, possible the police and social services.

They will more than likely call the OP first thing on Monday morning. Telling the OP to keep her child off school is not helpful. Saying that she shouldn't be sending him back until she knows whats happening with the other child is also not helpful.

[Hassled]

I think someone should have called you. Your DS was threatened by a boy who he and the school knows carries a knife - that's a big deal by anyone's standards. I'm sure they have other stuff to deal with but a 5 minute call to reassure you that they're on top of things wouldn't have been beyond them.

[OvariesBeforeBrovaries]

I don't think you're BU. I wouldn't be sending my child into school again until I knew it was sorted.

[bakeoffcake]

Well, it may not be helpful in your opinioncoffee to suggest keeping the boy at home, but it is what I would do, until I had spoken to someone at the school.

I do understand that the school won't say exactly what has been done, I would want reassurance that the issue had been dealt with.