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I have been NC with my dad for about 10 years, with only rare contact before this. He divorced my mum when I was 8 and I have never really had a relationship with him since then.
My main reasons for going NC were:
- the first time he visited his grandson, ( when he was 1), I was in the middle of my uni finals and I hadn't washed up for 3 days. Instead of helping out he called Social Services
-when my mum died (I am an only child), he didn't even call to see if I was Ok, despite our extended family asking him to
- he blocked me on Facebook which I thought was very immature
- there is of course more, but those are the most recent things
I don't really have much to do with the Extended family as I don't want to cause any difficulties or awkwardness.
Anyway, his mum, my Nan, has phoned to say she is having a 90th birthday party and she wants her whole family there. I cannot bear the thought of him near my children ( who he has met a couple of times and who don't remember him), especially as he would be very chummy with them ( for 5 minutes). I really don't want any drama, or to spoil the party, but if we don't go, I will be seen as the baddie, which shouldn't bother me, but it does!
I'm really unsure about what to do. My cousins and aunts and uncles would all be lovely if we go, but the thought of it is just horrible.
What should I do?