Help me out here Vipers-DP need kicking into touch a bit about who does what around the house-he seems to think that I do nothing at all around the house bar 'cook sometimes'
To clarify, he works 40ish hrs a week over 5 days with an hour commute each way, and I generally work 25hrs per week over 6 days locally. Both of us in very intense roles, his in IT, me in a public facing role that is very demanding and complicated. I rarely get to take more than a 10 minute break as there is no cover, while he can take a lunch hour or step away for a cigarette or tea break. Last week I covered my colleagues shifts too(annual leave) and totalled close to 60 hours with an average of 8 minutes away from my desk a day to bolt down a wrap/leftovers. As a result, both of us are tired and the house work has slipped.
At home, I do all the cooking, washing, ironing, looking after our pet, clearing out and resetting the fire, cleaning of bathrooms etc, while DP mops and vacuums once a week, usually on a sunday, and very rarely if we have company coming over. He resents having to do this at all as he seems to think it is part of my role. I would be a bit more relaxed about housework, as long as it's not dirty, it doesn't bother me. DP grew up in a house where literally everything has to be tidied away immediately, but is himself a massive slob. He would happily live in filth if it were just him in the house and take any issue with it, but takes HUGE offence to me not keeping the perfect house at all times. My view is that if you want something done, do it yourself or quit bitching.
What horrible things can I wish on this 1950's throwback, I need to teach him a lesson in gender equality and mutual respect!!
(He's not always like this, just horribly stressed at work and is striking out at me in frustration, he'll apologise later, but I want to make suffer a bit first :D)
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dubdurbs · 08/03/2016 23:28
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