To ask for your PFB moments?

[Oysterbabe]

We always try and put 9 week old DD down so we can have dinner and she always cries because she must be held the entire time. We end up picking her up and eating one handed. Put her down last night and she stayed asleep and then was still asleep about an hour later. We were worried and thought she must be about to die of something so we woke her up and she cried for ages..

Please can you tell me about your overanxious or overprotective PFB moments to reassure me that I'm not losing mind?
Will I eventually stop constantly worrying about something happening to her?

[SalemSaberhagen]

My DM apparently rubbed no more tears shampoo in her eyes to make sure her pfb (my DB) wouldn't be irritated by it.

My DD takes an age to go to sleep and would wake at the drop of the hat. One night she didn't wake up when I changed her nappy, so I woke her as I was worried

It does get better I promise. You become a lot more relaxed!

[SalemSaberhagen]

But the worry never goes. Sorry!

[ThornyBird]

I don't remember any PFB but they must have happened. I did however have plenty of PLB! Dc4 was diagnosed with a heart condition while I was pg. We were told symptoms of heart failure would start showing around 4-6 weeks IF at all.

One of the symptoms is clamminess. I was convinced he had heart failure as he was sweaty. In the end dh bought a room thermometer because he was sick of pointing out it was July, 25+C and EVERYONE was sweaty because it was hot!!

For the record, dc4 is almost 7, remains symptom free and is the exact opposite of what you would expect from a child with a congenital heart defect

[BumWad]

Last night for the first time ever my 9 month old DS (7 months corrected) didn't wake in the night for a feed. I jumped awake at 4am in a panic and made him a bottle and fed him in his sleep.

I probably come across as crazy but he needs to put a bit of weight on...

[SalemSaberhagen]

Ah, the waking up in a panic because you feel too well rested I bed share as well, Christ knows how the fear would have taken me if she had been in a different room!

[storminabuttercup]

I did the rubbing of no more tears in my eyes - and cried because DP wouldn't do the same to make sure I wasn't just immune to any stingyness

[SalemSaberhagen]

storm that is hilarious!!

[Oysterbabe]

I feel like a bad mum now because I've never rubbed shampoo in my eyes.

[SomedayMyPrinceWillCome]

Oh yes, that micro second of bliss when you wake after your first whole night's sleep then replaced by sheer blind panic until you wake them up reassure yourself that the baby is still ok

[RollerGirl7]

I was once hysterical with worry as my ds was at school. They were doing a sponsored sing along and I hadn't signed the firm and I was so worried that they weren't going to let him join in with the singing I had visions of them making him sit in the corner whilst the other kids sang.

I was devastated as he loves to sing and it would have really upset him.

DH thought I was a weirdo and had somehow grasped that they wouldn't stop him singing.

[TheAngelofNitshillRoad]

Oh, so many.

Phoned NHS 24 and got an out of hours appointment because she was "shivering" - she had a mild cold and her room wasn't warm enough calpol and an extra blanket, she was fine.

I thought she had hypothermia the other night. Convinced of it. Ear thermometer was reading 34 degrees. DH was like "clearly it's wrong, she's fine, her skin feels warm and she's been asleep for the last hour, warm in bed" - I didn't have the thermometer in far enough, it seems. I didnt want to hurt her

I live in constant, real FEAR of meningitis.

Sterilising the knife I used to level off the scoops of formula.

Worrying about nappies and socks being too tight

People have told me I'm pfb for warming her baby food eg an Ella's kitchen pouch. I disagree with that one - I wouldn't eat stuff like spag bol cold - why should she?

[Oysterbabe]

These make me feel better.
I have the meningitis fear too.

I had an emergency GP appointment because I noticed she has oral thrush. GP was all like " Is she your first? "

[oldjacksscrote]

I got a bit ott with ds1 and his feeding and sleeping routine. he'd HAVE to have lunch at 12, on the many occasions at Sunday lunch at my mums everyone had to cook and eat early to suit him. I cringe now but it was only a few months ago and they still take the piss by saying "it's 2 minutes past 12 haven't you made his lunch yet".
In my defence he used to get really grouchy when he was hungry and was much more pleasant after being fed and as soon as it was 12 he'd be hovering around the kitchen waiting!

[tomatodizzy]

I don't know about PFB moment, I've done that with my 4th

[hiyahen]

My DS is almost 13 months old and I have sat in the back seat of the car for almost every trip since he has been born, convinced he'll kick off without me being there to amuse him. My DH has started taking him out for breakfast on a Sunday with his friends and their babies to let me have a lie in - apparently he's as good as gold in the car!

[Thatrabbittrickedme]

For the first year of both of my DC's lives I had to wake several times in the night to check they were still breathing - I was petrified of SIDS. I still check on them now aged 5 and 7 before I go to bed myself, and if I wake up in the night. It's really silly, but I cant stop.

[Jitterybug]

I woke ds up last night as I couldn't tell if he was breathing or not.

He is 5 and not even ill or anything.

[1AngelicFruitCake]

During paternity leave, me and my husband would jointly change every nappy, ensuring one of us always got warm water to use with the cotton wool. When he went back to work I realised I wouldn't be able to use warm water each time, which my husband was worried about!

Even worse, my friend gave her baby a bath and then washed her (small amount of) hair separately until she was 7 months as she wanted her baby to have fresh, clean hair

[Brightnorthernlights]

I bought a contraption to keep the bum wipes warm for DD1.

Oh dear. Feel embarrassed still

[LauraMipsum]

Loads although in fairness DP was worse than I was

For the first two months at least of PFB's life, DP wouldn't change her bum other than with warm water and cotton wool, and with a miniature fan heater blowing warm air onto her PFBum. It was winter. But still quite PFB.

[kbro79]

Oh god yes to the checking DS is breathing and the meningitis fear. Also Ds was born in August so had constant fretting about over heating despite it being a rubbish summer.

theangel never mind warning Ella's pouches. DS doesnt seem to like cold food so I have been known to warm his wheetabix! My mum was here last week and laughed say you will not do that for a second!

[kbro79]

Oh and Dh insists on pre washing all clothes we get even if it's something that he'll wear over other clothes like a jumper.

[HelsBels3000]

TheAngel your Ella's pouches plan is fine in theory, only falls down when you end up somewhere with no warming facilities and your baby is screaming, hungry and won't accept a cold pouch! That is when you realise it would have been better to have stuck with cold pouches from the start

[RoboticSealpup]

I called NHS 111 because I thought I had a cold sore and I realised that I had kissed my DD several times on the face that day. I had read in the news about a baby who died from getting the cold sore virus from his dad. A really nice doctor called me to explain that all infections can be potentially dangerous in rare cases. He said that wear infections can potentially lead to meningitis but that doesn't mean anyone with an ear infection needs to go to A&E...
He also asked me in a restrained tone if this was my first baby.

Oh, and it wasn't a cold sore. I had bitten my lip.