I apologise in advance for a very rambley ranting post!
My dad and her met when I was about 7, I lived with my dad just me and him and were very close and continued to be.
When I was 20 they had a child together, that's when things started to change.
She stayed nice for a while until the last few years.
She has now told me I am out of the will, throws massive surprise parties for my dad and doesn't invite me, she deletes my texts to my dad asking us to meet and she once even turned up alone saying he was busy (he had no idea until I told him a few weeks later)
She takes down all of the pictures of me and DD from the house when my dad puts them up and says she doesn't know what happened to them.
I have a young DD, and if he says anything nice about my DD she then says 'oh but OUR dd was much better than that at her age' Her DD is 10 now!! If he offers to babysit once in a while when I'm at work she says no he can't because he should be spending time with there child. (He works 2 mornings a week so is home all the time anyway)
She makes comments like how her DD is an only child and how my dad started fatherhood older (NO HE WAS 20 I am his child too!)
I feel pathetic even writing this , but after all these years it's really starting to get to me. For so many years it was just me and my dad and although I understand he has his own family now, I still want him to be a part of mine.
The last straw was when I asked to borrow some money from him for a boiler repair recently. He immediately said yes of course. I then got a text from her saying 'actually we won't be sending you any money, we need to save for our childs future and I don't think this is an appropriate way to spend our money' my dad is filthy rich - think 7 figures - she has never worked since the day she met him, yet makes his decisions now?
She is so nice to my face and acts like we're best friends when he is around but I can see through it all and I hate it. He is oblivious.
Do I need to just suck it up and accept I'm not really going to have a relationship with my dad anymore? Is there anything I can even say? Am fully prepared to be told I am being a baby and UR just wanted opinions.
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To feel like my step mum has stolen my dad from me even though I'm a grown woman?
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Feellikeim10again · 07/03/2016 18:11
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