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AIBU to have said NO to ds coming home?

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waffilyversati1e Mon 07-Mar-16 13:49:52

Maybe I am being too harsh. DS' head of year has just called. DS is 14 and has had his jabs today, he had been absolutely dreading them.
Head of year called to say that DS was sitting in the year office complaining of feeling achey and tired because of the jabs. He only had then 2 hours ago.. I said I was sorry to hear that but how could I help? Teacher said that DS felt he needed to come home.

Now, school have (rightly) a strict policy when it comes to absence and I said I really think its psychosomatic because of the anxiety he had been feeling yesterday but obviously if he needs to come home I will come get him but its only an hour and a bit until the end of school so couldn't he just sit somewhere quietly?
The teacher was trying to stifle her laughter as we were talking so I am 99.9% sure he is trying it on but if she thought that why would they call me at all?! (I am at home not at work thankfully so I can just go get him if needed)

PosieReturningParker Mon 07-Mar-16 13:50:48

I would have gone to collect the child, tbh.

NellysKnickers Mon 07-Mar-16 13:54:32

Oh go and get him and give him a cuddle and chill out together at home for the afternoon. Don't be mean, he may well be trying it on but as long as it's not every day it's not an issue.

MrsJayy Mon 07-Mar-16 13:55:04

I would have gone to get him if he was nervous his adrenalin would have been raging and the come down is acheyness (sp) I know you dont want to pander to him but he may be feeling awful yabu a little

waffilyversati1e Mon 07-Mar-16 13:55:17

I am a mean mum aren't I.. gah..

ThorsLady Mon 07-Mar-16 13:56:12

I'd be the same, my mum told me to lump it whenever I tried to get sent home, if I was ever really that bad I'd phone her and talk to her myself and take myself home.

OohMavis Mon 07-Mar-16 13:56:40

You big meanie.

NoCapes Mon 07-Mar-16 13:57:13

If you were at work I'd have said YANBU to not leave early to get him
But if you're at home anyway then yes I'd have gone and collected him

You are a bit of a meany yes
But only a bit grin

MrsJayy Mon 07-Mar-16 13:57:29

Teeny bit mean yeah

Xmasbaby11 Mon 07-Mar-16 13:57:32

Is it difficult to get away from work at short notice? I'd get him, personally.

pinkcan Mon 07-Mar-16 13:58:02

Just go and get him! Poor thing.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat Mon 07-Mar-16 14:00:11

Teacher said that DS felt he needed to come home

YANBU I reckon that's teacher speak for "he's swinging the lead, but we're obliged to call you"

But then my DD went thru a phase at secondary school of going to the medical room any day she happened to have PE (so I'm hard hearted). I would get a phone call and (after collecting her the first few times) the teacher and I would suggest she should "see how she feels after lunch" and she'd then buck up and get on with it.

Chasingsquirrels Mon 07-Mar-16 14:00:32

If it was me I'd have said he could go and sit in the lessons for the hour and a bit, never mind quietly somewhere.

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 07-Mar-16 14:00:39

He's 14? for heavens sake what a drama grin

he's putting it on. he's just git himself worked up. when we had our jabs at school the older kids would attempt to scare you a bit.

it takes a few hours at least for the side effects to take place.

mind you you could always send him to bed no dinner and no tv just water if he's obviously so in well

waffilyversati1e Mon 07-Mar-16 14:00:53

Raptor that's exactly how it sounded..

ProcrastinatorGeneral Mon 07-Mar-16 14:12:29

I wouldn't have collected. Indeed, my eldest had her cervical cancer jab a few months back and it made her feel dire by mid afternoon - she didn't even bother asking to come home. She went to her locker and grabbed some nurofen and got on with it.

She did growl at anyone who went near her arm for the best part of a fortnight though. I don't think she's looking forward to the follow up doses.

PitilessYank Mon 07-Mar-16 14:20:13

I would go get him, but I am a huge sucker/softie. My maternal guilt meter is stuck on high 24/7. (I am hoping my kids turn out okay anyway!!)

BeautyGoesToBenidorm Mon 07-Mar-16 14:21:19

DS1's teacher often calls me when he's says he's poorly but is trying it on for whatever reason, she's quite open about it but always asks what I'd like to do, as obviously I know him best. If it was a regular occurrence, I'd be taking him aside and discussing any worries he may have that he hasn't previously opened up about.

If there's only an hour or so of the school day left to go, I probably wouldn't pick him up, as it takes me over an hour to get there from work. If he was really poorly, I'd tell them I was on my way, but that I probably wouldn't be there any earlier due to travel. Sorry, that wasn't really much help, was it?!

Junosmum Mon 07-Mar-16 14:21:40


WishToBeWell Mon 07-Mar-16 14:23:00

^ I said I was sorry to hear that but how could I help?^

You do realise that this makes you sound like a Customer Services rep don't you?

Witchend Mon 07-Mar-16 14:23:33

I wouldn't have. I wonder how many were trying it on. My friend who used to do the injections said so many of the children wound themselves up to ridiculous levels before she'd even seen them. And then you had the little notes on margins "can you sit with him for as long as he needs,afterwards in case he's upset" "she won't be able to go back to lessons so phone me to get her." "he'll need me in the room with him to hold his hand"...

MrsJorahMormont Mon 07-Mar-16 14:23:56

YANBU. Unless he has other issues around anxiety or is allergic, I think a 14 year old should be able to recover from the trauma of jabs hmm And I say that as the woman who once howled inconsolably the night before my jabs, cried during them and then was like WTF did I get so stressed about seconds after it was all over hmm confused

MrsDeVere Mon 07-Mar-16 14:24:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SoupDragon Mon 07-Mar-16 14:26:00

YANBU I reckon that's teacher speak for "he's swinging the lead, but we're obliged to call you"

I agree.

However, in order to earn parental brownie points with my DC I would have probably gone to get them if it didn't cause me any hassle. I would have made it quite clear to said DC that I knew they were putting it on.

waffilyversati1e Mon 07-Mar-16 14:26:07

You do realise that this makes you sound like a Customer Services rep don't you?

haha guess what I used to do for a living..

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