OK bit of a long post I apologise.
I have been with my Dh 10 years and married 5 years. I first met his brother and he hid behind a curtain (I just though he is socially awkward ) anyway a common ground was found, kinda. He drinks a lot and whiskey is his main conversation topic. Anyway fast forward few years on our wedding day my bil told my dad that he thought his brother could do better. (He back tracked later on after this but it was never the same) few more years passed and we had our ds who was 2 at the time and he started to joke about giving our ds miniatures (alcohol). I over heard this and said how highly inappropriate it was to joke about it. To which he responded he is his uncle and he could do what he wanted. As you can imagine I fought my ground as his mother and refused to see him again and was questioning his suitability around our ds.
Anyway I see him only at boxing day with our dh and ds and all of his family but not any other time. I don't stop my dh seeing him and I have had to force him to make a effort as he uses me as a escape route to see him when he wants. Now if we go to my dh family and he is there I do not object I will either go but make a short visit or tell my dh I will give it a miss.
He is moaning to my dh and his family how I am being unreasonable and will not forget my past problems with him. Now me personally I don't like him I don't have anything in common with him and tbh he creeps me out I have got past experiences with toxic people (my sister included) and I am happy to not have them as part of my life.
What would you do?
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To not want to make ammends with my brother in law?
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Jayne266 · 06/03/2016 20:48
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