To request mumsnet to add a 'polyamorous families' section under parenting?

[whycantwegoonasthree]

There's every other kind of family type, pretty much, and polyamorous families have some unique joys and challenges that it would be nice to share and discuss.

Or maybe we're the last frontier and even MN aren't ready to go there.

Yet.

[UnmentionedElephantDildo]

You need to start a thread in Site Issues, or report your post, if you want MNHQ to read it.

[WorraLiberty]

Probably too niche

There are so many topics already that hardly anyone uses - hence AIBU and Chat being so busy.

[HermioneJeanGranger]

Can't you just use Parenting or relationships? It's too niche, really. It wouldn't get much traffic.

[UmbongoUnchained]

What is polyamorous?

[whycantwegoonasthree]

Thought I'd get a straw poll on whether anyone else would be interested.

I'm pretty sure I'm not the only person on here in a poly relationship but there aren't really any safe places to discuss it.

It doesn't go down well on the 'relationships' section, lemme tell you. Over there either poly = cheating or someone's being taken advantage of.

And it has some specific parenting challenges.

[giantpurplepeopleeater]

There's an entirely seperate board for questions about the site. Suggest you go there.

[OvariesBeforeBrovaries]

Or you could start a thread?

One of the things I liked best when I joined MN was that there was no specific "Young Parents" section like there is on The Other Forum - despite young parents also having unique joys and challenges.

I doubt it's anything to do with Mumsnet not being ready to "go there", wherever "there" is, and more to do with a) there not being enough demand and b) not having any issues with polyamorous families starting their own threads.

[Kewcumber]

Why would it be under "parenting"?

I wouldn't expect Desperate for a Shag but Too Tired to Arrange a Babysitter and find Someone Available to go under "Parenting"

I mean I get that it's more of a lifestyle choice than my example but surely it's not a parenting issue - unless you're roping your children in which would be a whole other kettle of fish altogether

[Pipbin]

What is polyamorous?

Relationships of more than two people.

I do understand what you mean OP. You need somewhere to talk about parenting within this kind of family group without explaining how it works, that you really are happy and without being judged.

As said above, start a post on Site Stuff to get MNHQ to notice.

[whycantwegoonasthree]

Umbongo - polyamory is when people are in committed, loving relationships with more than one person with the full knowledge and consent of all those involved.

As I said, this is a toe in the water to gauge interest and yes, I may start a thread in Parenting and hope it's not as risky as mentioning it in the 'Relationships' section.

[WorraLiberty]

Kewcumber, the OP said polyamorous, not dogging

[Kewcumber]

Most people find threads through active don't they?

Just start a thread entitled "For discussion of people in polyamorous relationships who want to discuss parenting issues" and see who joins in.

[Kewcumber]

I suppose I hadn't grasped the living in the same house thing. Relationships aren't just about people who live together!

[whycantwegoonasthree]

We're in two separate houses, (no desire or plans for a fully cohabiting poly setup) and there are two young children and two teenagers between us.

The teenagers know about and are happy with the setup - they're not mine but we go to stuff together sometimes and get on well.

The little ones don't yet, but we'd all like them to, in time.

So yes, there are unique parenting challenges, and yes it would be nice to discuss them somewhere where we wouldn't have to continually defend ourselves.

[Lweji]

I think starting a specific thread is a good idea, rather than a board. I suspect a board would be too quiet. Probably you and few people if only for parenting. A Polyamorous board might get more traffic, but then it would have more than parenting.

[SoConfused15]

Are you out to your kids OP? Just curious. I am poly but my kids don't know and they haven't met my secondary partner. It's a tricky situation.

[whycantwegoonasthree]

Leweji - you may be right (you probably are) but where would a polyamory board sit? Body and soul perhaps?

There are certainly things to discuss besides parenting challenges in a poly setup!

And actually remarkably few places where one can discuss them. And I come to MN to discuss pretty much everything else in life, so why not this?

[WorraLiberty]

I'm not sure having a specific topic would mean you wouldn't have to continually defend yourselves, especially with so many goady fuckers and trolls around.

The FWR topic springs to mind. Apparently that gets trolled a lot.

[MaudGonneMad]

No-one's saying you can't discuss it.

[whycantwegoonasthree]

SoConfused - HELLO!!!

No, not to mine, it's complicated by my ex's religious beliefs and also they're a little young to understand it.

The children (teenagers) from the other two members of our 'V' are fully aware, have met me, and we're astonishingly unfazed when told. "Yeah, poly's a thing. So, ok, cool, whatever."

They're remarkably ace kids though.

[Kewcumber]

Lordy the adoption board gets trolled from time to time. Not just from proper trolly trolls but just people who don;t agree with it. There is no escape from that by sticking it in its own board.

[whycantwegoonasthree]

What was the FWR board? And yes, almost definitely prone to trolling. Not necessarily a reason not to go there though. Do the LGBT boards get trolled too?

[whycantwegoonasthree]

But who the absolute fuck would troll an adoption board? Jesus wept. There really are some total arseholes out there.