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How is the least U way to leave a thread on MN?

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Tabsicle Sat 05-Mar-16 11:58:46

So, I have a rule about people being wrong on the internet. I am only allowed to argue with them as long as I have nothing better to do in real life (sitting typing into my phone at a dinner party is right out), if it isn't actually upsetting me or making me angry (life is too short) and if I feel I am actually making a positive contribution (so if I'm not changing anyone's mind and they aren't changing mine it seems pointless to keep flogging the dead horse).

This means I periodically do pull out of threads but I'm never sure what the most polite way of doing it is. Do you say "well, thank you for this but I won't be replying any more?" I sometimes do this but it always feels a bit like flouncing which is bad. Or do you just mute the thread and stop replying? Is it rude then to ignore hypothetical people who might be talking at you?

Which is U? And what other options are there?

WorraLiberty Sat 05-Mar-16 12:00:50

I just fuck off to another thread.

Mostly you'll find other people come on to say whatever you would have said anyway.

Tabsicle Sat 05-Mar-16 12:02:36

That's a fairly good point. I generally just feel guilty if people have aimed comments/questions at me. But that might be me being neurotic and 90% of the time they'll forget about me straight after posting.

DayToDayShit Sat 05-Mar-16 12:03:06

I just fuck off too.

Maryz Sat 05-Mar-16 12:03:54

Hide the thread.

Unless you are arguing with me, obviously. In which case you are definitely wrong and you should apologise and agree with me, and then hide the thread.

this is an example of me giving advice that I don't follow, obvs

FigMango1 Sat 05-Mar-16 12:04:31

Is it rude then to ignore hypothetical people who might be talking at you?

Why do you care what random people are saying. I just leave as well.

Maryz Sat 05-Mar-16 12:05:14

And yes, they will forget they have addressed you. Most of us (or I presume so, because I do it), have no idea who said what on which thread.

StickyToffeePuddingAndCustard Sat 05-Mar-16 12:07:34


It's the only way.

SleepyBoBo Sat 05-Mar-16 12:08:32

I've done the whole 'right, think I've said all I can say here' post, and still had posters (one in particular) that just will not drop it, so it looks like I've flounced. I've recently name changed, so don't get 'noticed' as much - so can disappear in a thread quite easily. Just fucking off is the easiest way (as long as you haven't just been a goady git for the sake of it). Most of us have busy lives and can't just hang on one thread all day.

AntiquityReRises Sat 05-Mar-16 12:10:12

Stop going on thread, hide it, deregister, delete browser from phone, set fire to Internet. Then pretend it all never happened.

WorraLiberty Sat 05-Mar-16 12:11:54

On a different note

I never quite know how to leave a PM.

After a couple of replies, I think "Is it rude if I leave it now? It's not like they've asked me a question or anything" grin

wickedwaterwitch Sat 05-Mar-16 12:12:05

I just don't post on it - I assume nobody will care and I'm probably right!

TooOldForGlitter Sat 05-Mar-16 12:13:09

I'm going to trial doing a mic drop in creepy wee brackets.

Tabsicle Sat 05-Mar-16 12:13:29

AntiquityReRises - you give the best advice!

usual Sat 05-Mar-16 12:13:50

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UnGoogleable Sat 05-Mar-16 12:13:58

Just hide the thread. You'll soon forget it existed. Whoever you're arguing with will either find someone else to disagree with, or not... whatever.

No it's not rude to ignore hypothetical people who might be talking to you. Because they're not talking 'to' you, they're sending a message which you may or may not see, and may or may not choose to respond to.

I wish I could apply this to my real life work emails.

Tabsicle Sat 05-Mar-16 12:14:53

FigMango1 - I care about way too much ridiculous stuff. It's why I have rules for myself. Otherwise I descend into neurotic second guessing madness! grin

UnGoogleable Sat 05-Mar-16 12:17:16

I realized I cared way too much about this stuff when I found I was getting really annoyed about an argument I was having here on MN, and I realized that I could have avoided all that annoyance by just walking away.

Then someone called me a cunt and that confirmed it!

Aint nobody got time for that!

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 05-Mar-16 12:17:43

Well just recently I called a bellend a bellend on a thread and then reported my own post. I suspect that is not the way to do it blush grin

I usually go for reasoned querying of nonsense and then say I'm not engaging any more. Or just go and do something more interesting like... taking the bins out.

Thornrose Sat 05-Mar-16 12:18:00

I just wander off, I can't be arsed to worry about it.

Thornrose Sat 05-Mar-16 12:21:52

Worra I'm the same with texts. At what point can I stop? Sometimes I wish people would text "bye" so I know it's over. grin

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 05-Mar-16 12:21:55

Actually there are probably about 20 posters who I would feel bad about offending and about 3 million who behave like twats and live in Aibu so I don't care what they think or if I upset them by calling out twattishness.

Out of Aibu people tend to be a bit less awful for the sake of it and so I'm more patient and less likely to get annoyed because people are just less cunty there.

fuzzpig Sat 05-Mar-16 12:22:24

I'd say there's no 'need' to inform anyone unless it's your own thread

SwedishEdith Sat 05-Mar-16 12:23:10

If anyone disagrees with me now I just hide the thread or move one. Obviously, on a big issue, not 'Which tiles do you like?'

I really can't be bothered wasting my time and energy on people who pick up on the slightest flippant or throwaway comment.

WorraLiberty Sat 05-Mar-16 12:24:46

Sometimes I wish people would text "bye" so I know it's over grin

Yes!! That'd be great grin

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