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To be upset about Mother's Day when I'm not a mum?

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Changedname16 Sat 05-Mar-16 09:29:16

Probably am but am still upset - anyone else?

formerbabe Sat 05-Mar-16 09:31:45

I'm a mum but my own mother has been dead for over 20 years...I find mothers day tough too flowers

magpie17 Sat 05-Mar-16 09:56:17

I'm a mum but am NC with my own mother and find all the soppy Mother's Day stuff hard too. It's a complicated 'holiday' for a lot of people unfortunately.

Janeymoo50 Sat 05-Mar-16 10:01:49

I find Mothers Day very hard, but because my mum died two years ago. I'd give my right arm to be able to see her tomorrow with a card and present. God I'm filling up writing this.

moocowmrs Sat 05-Mar-16 10:07:27

Mother's Day is tough for me as well, I am a mum but lost my mum 4 years ago, the day will never be the same and it's so hard that there is really no recognition of this, just endless marketing hype and supermarket tat which sets me off but ironically she hated ! Give yourself time to be tomorrow to be calm and do something you enjoy. And remember by Monday this day too will have passed.

5Hearts Sat 05-Mar-16 10:14:14

Yes, mother's day can be tough. My mum died when I was just four so I can't remember a mother's day when I had a mum sad. Being a mum myself hasn't really made it much better. Of course, in my head, she would've been the most amazing mother all these lost years...

DH could barely be bothered to buy his mum a card and a cheap gift and will pop round tomorrow out of pure obligation so he's not that keen on the day for a different reason - being forced to make a fuss of a women who was mediocre at best at this mothering lark.

Essexgirlupnorth Sat 05-Mar-16 10:24:57

My mum has been diagnosed with terminal cancer so this will likely be her last Mother's Day. I cried in clintons trying to buy a card for her but I also have a daughter so looking forward to spending time with her.
It is hard for a lot of people.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sat 05-Mar-16 10:48:39

thanks for everybody finding Mothers Day tough; it really does seem sometimes that the sadness and difficult that some people feel is really glossed over in favour of schmaltz.

I'm pleased for people who are ecstatically looking forward to the day itself but very mindful that some are just not, for whatever reason, and will be thinking of them.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sat 05-Mar-16 10:49:41

... it's like the elephant in the room really.

Spartak Sat 05-Mar-16 10:51:46

Me too, I always thought I'd be a mum at some point, coming to terms with the fact that at 38 I'm almost certainly not going to be. I'm planning on going somewhere quiet for a long walk tomorrow away from the rest of the world.

AnthonyBlanche Sat 05-Mar-16 11:05:23


honeyroar Sat 05-Mar-16 11:15:27

I find it sad too. I couldn't have children. My lovely step son always buys me a card, which is lovely, but I always have a little "why not me??" Moment when every one starts posting flowers on Facebook. I can't imagine how sad it must be if you've lost your mother too.

mogloveseggs Sat 05-Mar-16 11:20:17

flowers for everyone. I have this on fathers day

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