AIBU in thinking that it is normal for daughters to have a closer type of relationship with their mums than sons as adults and therefore unrealistic for d-i-l's to be expecting that the family dynamics be the same for all the families. For example, when I had my babies at home pre school, I often used to bundle them into the car and go and spend the day nattering to my mum. Sometimes my mum used to let me know if one of my S-I-L's was coming and I'd go up so the kids could play together which they always loved and still do.
One of my S-I-L's once asked me not to come when she was there because she wanted her children to have quality time with their grandparents. She felt my kids got more time with them. The mad thing about this is although my parents love the grand-kids they have never been very hands on and if you ever left the kids with them you knew they would be fed and watered but spend the rest of the time playing in the garden or house pretty much unsupervised.
There are threads where women moan about their mother-in-laws not doing this and that and treating their children differently to other grandchildren but I would like to bet the difference is mostly between daughters and sons and because married sons often spend less time with their parents than married daughters,it makes it hard for the dynamics to be equal.Does that make sense.(even if a bit of a generalisation!)
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vdbfamily · 03/03/2016 20:45
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