Parents that let their children "run wild" indoors in a public confined space are uncouth

(109 Posts)
feellikeahugefailure Tue 01-Mar-16 18:23:24

So watching swimming lessons (again...) on a mezzanine floor with other parents. Some have brought their other children along and let them run around the place, up and down on a wooden floor that reverberates throughout the whole pool room making a lot of noise. Some even run into me, no apology from either the child or the parent and the parent says nothing to them.

They are uncouth right?

acasualobserver Tue 01-Mar-16 18:24:31

They are and there are lot of them.

TypicallyEnglishMustard Tue 01-Mar-16 18:25:46

It's the ones who allow it in cafes that terrify me. I really don't want to spill hot liquids on their children, but they make it bloody difficult to avoid doing so!

Pinkgeek Tue 01-Mar-16 18:27:12

Yes!
I'm not a parent so I find it hard to see it from their PoV.
I hate that ppl let kids run riot in public places, especially when eating! So disrespectful and it's not cute!
My sister lets her ds climb all over table and run everywhere whilst we finish our dinner on a restaurant just because he's finished (nearly 2yo)
I find it embarrassing and more than a bit irritating! No idea how to address these issues though. Perhaps I'm just a grump!

mamapants Tue 01-Mar-16 18:27:46

Uncouth is a strange word choice

WorraLiberty Tue 01-Mar-16 18:30:57

They're careless.

Having said that, I would be mildly more annoyed at the staff if they aren't doing anything to stop the situation.

acasualobserver Tue 01-Mar-16 18:31:55

Uncouth is a strange word choice

Why? Just means lacking good manners.

Ifiwasabadger Tue 01-Mar-16 18:33:25

YANBU

Oooblimey Tue 01-Mar-16 18:34:39

I hate all parents who allow their children to wander round cafes, restaurants, run arund supermarket isles etc. If you can't control it don't bring it out!

Keeptrudging Tue 01-Mar-16 18:38:36

Why should it be the staff's job to stop them when the parents are there? My DS was (is) hyperactive. He still had to behave in restaurants. I took fiddle toys/books with me. If he really needed to run, I'd take him outside between courses/for a walk to the toilets and give him a blast under the hand-dryer grin.

ArabellaRockerfella Tue 01-Mar-16 18:41:07

The worst example was when we were trying to enjoy a meal for a family birthday (in the evening! 9pm!!) and the 2 children on the other side of the restaurant were running races, doing bunny hops and forward rolls across the room and the parents didn't flinch! The staff were too embarrassed to say anything either. I am shocked at the lack of parenting now and see it time and again in my job as a teacher. sad

eaudeparfumpooie Tue 01-Mar-16 18:45:09

They are just lazy parents, and will pay heavily for that in the teenage years, and their children will pay for their lack of skills all their lives which is so sad.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall Tue 01-Mar-16 18:46:24

I nearly clattered a kid running free in the town over with my pram not once but three times in the town whilst his mother was yacking on her phone. He also narrowly avoided being ran over by a shop mobility scooter. Don't know about uncouth but certainly stupid and irresponsible

Keeptrudging Tue 01-Mar-16 18:46:43

'Spirited' children hmm. Parents who come into school and question why their child has to sit and listen at storytime or can't play with his dinosaurs during maths, or who can't line up/stop interrupting. I'm not talking about children with special needs, obviously!

feellikeahugefailure Tue 01-Mar-16 18:52:07

I thought uncouth was the perfect word. TBH in a previous life I would of used the C word, but I know better now.

Yes cafes are annoying too. A child that was 7-8 ran me over in ikea as her parents had let her push the trolley and she was doing it too fast without care. I wanted to throw a bookcase at her.

feellikeahugefailure Tue 01-Mar-16 18:53:26

Keeptrudging - thats awful! are you a school teacher?

RhodaBull Tue 01-Mar-16 18:58:07

On Saturday in Waitrose (well, it would be, wouldn't it) I saw a father with a child who was riding a bike . Yes, I kid you not, not a scooter, an actual bike. She was riding it round the edge of the wine, where there is a bit more space. I did a double take - I couldn't conceive of the notion that you would go into a supermarket with a child riding a bike.

YouTheCat Tue 01-Mar-16 18:58:12

It amazes me how many kids are unable to sit on a carpet at school for 15 minutes these days. not just ks1 kids either

There was only one child who couldn't manage it in dd's reception class (16 years ago) but she had adhd.

In cafes and restaurants it is bloody dangerous. It shows a total lack of respect.

HoneyDragon Tue 01-Mar-16 19:02:46

Keeptrudging-I hear you. I have heard one parent constantly moaning about her dd's schools treatment of her dd and calling her in. She's annoyed that the school won't let her dd be the free spirit that she is or understand that her dd is simply not cut out for the routine of a state school. hmm

BrandNewAndImproved Tue 01-Mar-16 19:08:39

I felt extremely sorry for the lovely waitress in harvesters Saturday. Kids were running around the place going straight into her whilst she was carrying the hot food and no parents came and took their dc and stopped them running around.

I would have been so embarrassed if my two got up and acted like that. How hard is it to tell your dc to sit down and shut up.

PortobelloRoad Tue 01-Mar-16 19:08:51

I saw a child get drenched in a cafe not that long ago, thankfully they were cold drinks but of course the father kicks off at the waiter for not looking where he was going hmm, this child was hurtling about as if he owned the place. Terrible.

TheoriginalLEM Tue 01-Mar-16 19:09:33

I like that you equate uncouth with the c bomb grin I am now going to use it as a replacement.

Anyway, yababitu actually - in that situation i imagine the parents have the older kids in swimming lessons and hae had to drag the other children along. But its difficult to say without seeing the area.

So if there was food/drink on sale, confined seating area rather than an open space then yanbu, but if it was open space then, not so much - thing is, swimming pool pretty much equates to hell on earth for me so im resigned.

In a cafe/pub or anywhere where other people are wanting to relax then YANBU its cuntish, um, i mean, uncouth. I stopped going for coffee with a freind because she would just allow her child to run free and he was a nightmare - would bash on the glass door, climb on other peoples tables, run around shreiking. It was embarrasing and how he didn't end up covered in latte i don't know.

imwithspud Tue 01-Mar-16 19:10:46

I hate this too. I have a 3 year old, so I know how difficult it can be to reason with them at this age. But Im always conscious about how her behaviour might impact on others and I would never allow her to run around a restaurant climbing tables etc. It's difficult sometimes, but at least I'm trying. I would rather see a parent try and struggle to 'contain' their child, rather than not being arsed about what they're up to and how their behaviour is affecting others.

isitginoclock Tue 01-Mar-16 19:16:06

Yes. Uncouth and overentitled

futuremrsstinson Tue 01-Mar-16 19:22:19

Happened to me at work a few weeks ago.

Carrying a tray of hot chocolates to a table and two children came running in and barged straight into me causing me to spill the hot chocolate down myself- fortunately it wasn't a co worker/customer No apology from the children and when I mention it to their mother after I cleaned myself up- she shrugged her shoulders. I was tempted to spit in her food

YANBU OP.

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