Fiance keeps searching for a woman from work on Facebook

(17 Posts)
Stevie17 Tue 01-Mar-16 12:27:11

I noticed he's searched for the particular woman on facebook a few times. She works at his place. I went on her profile and its full of pics of her Poledancing.

I know she was on a night out he went to a few months back. Sometimes he deletes his search history and I'm starting to think that is when he's searching for her.

Am I over thinking this? he never mentions her otherwise.

focusedmum Tue 01-Mar-16 12:33:20

Oh dear! do you really need to ask?

I think this is a conversation you need to have with him!

MadameDePompom Tue 01-Mar-16 12:34:33

Am I over thinking this?

No

ThePebbleCollector Tue 01-Mar-16 12:37:08

Sounds like he's having a bit of a perve to me. hmm

DaisyBD Tue 01-Mar-16 12:37:52

why are you policing his search history? do you not trust him?

oliviaclottedcream Tue 01-Mar-16 12:39:56

Hmmm are you surprised he never mentions her? And why would a man be so keen to keep in touch with a female co-worker / Pole dancing enthusiast (then delete his search history), I'm wondering. Perhaps he's looking for a few tips on low-impact exercise?

Don't let it simmer. Confront him and of course you're not over thinking it ~ FFS!

FATEdestiny Tue 01-Mar-16 12:50:55

Sounds like he's having a sneaky perve to me.

If it was an affair, he'd already be FB friends with her. I bet he just thinks she's a bit sexy and is leering at pictures.

I would point out that you know he's perving at her, tell him its inappropriate and hope he is suitably embarrassed and apologetic.

TealLove Tue 01-Mar-16 12:53:54

I also think he's having a perv!

Maudofallhopefulness Tue 01-Mar-16 13:00:20

It could be there's some office gossip about her fb page pole dancing and he's perving.

Stevie17 Tue 01-Mar-16 13:02:31

He already is Facebook friends with her - he's searching to gawp at her profile

Stevie17 Tue 01-Mar-16 13:03:38

She's very open about the pole dancing and he's searched for her a number of times, months apart so I can't see it being down to gossip

lilian84 Tue 01-Mar-16 13:46:29

Agree with others he's having a perv...not sure how or if you should approach him with it as you'd have to explain that you didn't trust him and checked up on him...I suspect he is just looking...

If you decide to let it go as just looking and nothing else then best to try to resist peeking at his Facebook / messages from now on it will only drive you mad fretting and you'll end up blowing it out of proportion when you finally did ask him about his searches..

oliviaclottedcream Tue 01-Mar-16 13:57:28

if it was just having a 'perv' there's a mountain of women to perv at on the net. Many do a lot more than slide up and down a pole. It sounds to me like he feels like in with a chance with her and to see her in her thong.

scarlets Tue 01-Mar-16 14:15:52

It's likely to be a crush rather than an affair. Nip it in the bud before he propositions her and makes a mug of himself and you.

Fairylea Tue 01-Mar-16 14:17:01

I wouldn't be happy with that at all!

OzzieFem Tue 01-Mar-16 14:18:49

I don't think there is anything suspicious about your partner deleting his search history because I do this at least 2 or 3 times a month myself.

Branleuse Tue 01-Mar-16 14:25:01

tell him that you know hes been searching her, perving over her pictures, and to please stop making a fool out of you both because if this goes any further he will be out the fucking door

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