OK, so in a nutshell:
I have three children, two with my husband, one with my ex-husband. Things are brilliant between ex-h and I, we've been apart for close to 10 years and we co-parent together really well. We've worked bloody hard at it and we're in a really good place where we all, all four parents/step parents, work together as a team to benefit our son, who's now a teenager.
In short, we've booked to take our three kids to EuroDisney at Easter. We've wanted to do this for a long time - DS has already been as a youngster and found it magical and we've wanted to do this for the younger two. It's also a great opportunity for DS to regress a little and enjoy being a big kid rather than a cooler-than-cool teen.
However, ex-h has said he doesn't want him to go. He feels Paris is still too dangerous and after a man was caught going into one of the Disney hotels in Jan with guns, it's too much of a target.
I disagree. We did a lot of research after the Charlie Hebdo and Paris attacks, and having consulted a travel risk/insurance expert I know, I asked whether Disney was somewhere that I should avoid, I was told no, it was safer there than ever before, and security had already been tight - now it's heightened, you're likely to be safer there than anywhere else. The incident in Jan proves that the hotel security works, and it's just as tight in the park, but now they have added security measures.
So, the dilemma - I've explained this to Ex-h, along with the argument that of course, I'd never take any of my children somewhere I thought they'd be i danger. Last year we were booked to go to Turkey on a holiday we'd saved for and researched tonnes. He said he didn't want us to take DS, so we changed our plans and forked out a lot more cash and had a distinctly average time. We did this willingly as, yes, we were a little concerned about Turkey's safety too. However, this does feel different.
So AIBU to still want to go, and to want to take my DS? Or is he doing the right thing in voicing his concern? As a slight aside, one of the reasons we split was that I struggled with him being a little controlling and at times like this, it does flag up a few old issues. As I say, things are really, really good and I'm very fond of him and would never do anything with our son that he wasn't happy about or in support of, but this does feel a little like a step too far.
Thoughts anyone? Is there anything, on either side, that I'm not thinking of?
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DreamingOfADifferentMe · 29/02/2016 09:20
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