how to tell my mother I am pregnant

[StillYummy]

I am pregnant! This baby is a lovely surprise after years of treatment to get DC1. DC1 is not yet a year old so it is quite a small gap. Firstly I want to get the scan out the way so I know the baby is ok but after that I am going to have to tell my mum.

When I told my mum I was pregnant with DC1 (after the first scan) she said "well don't tell anyone". She then continued to not say anything nice till my aunt had a word, when she finally text me congratulations... After my aunt did! Mum was not aware of all the treatments and investigations I had to go through because when I tried to tell her she cut me off with "I don't want to know".

So, how do I tell this woman who will be incapable of saying anything nice? She will say it is too soon, or embarrassingly soon or and accident. That will make me want to tell her to do one, witch is not the low stress option I am looking for.

Would I be unreasonable to text her "we are really happy to announce I am pregnant with a brother/sister for DC1. I thought I would tell you by text to give you time to process and then reply with your congratulations."

Or is that a bit leading?

[TheSnowFairy]

How about:-

'I am really happy to tell you I am pregnant with a brother/sister for DC1. Love, Still"

Short, sweet and to the point.

And congrats btw

[PennyHasNoSurname]

Id just send a round robin and include her. She doesnt sound interested (or nice) enough to warrant you going out of your way for her.

[StillYummy]

The problem is she is sensitive (about her, not me) and easy to offend so I will agonise over how to do it and then still get it wrong. Aaahhhhhh why can't I have a normal family?!

[EponasWildDaughter]

Don't place any massive importance on this. Tell he in the same way you'd tell a mate.

''Pregnant with no.2! We are very happy. Just letting everyone know. Speak to you soon :) :) :)''

Let her do/say what she likes. It's your life.

[ollieplimsoles]

Pft! What a horrible woman!

I wouldn't tell her at all op... And when she did find out I would tell her exactly why I didn't exactly rush to say anything..

Congratulations op what a lovely surprise for you I hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy

[CrazyMary]

Is there a huge back story? Most Mums would be delighted at the news of becoming a grandmother (especially with the first dgc) maybe I'm naive

[Quietwhenreading]

Write in her Mother's day card?

[Owllady]

Don't tell her? I'd just keep it to yourself until you are further along

[Footle]

Could your partner tell her ? Might get a more friendly reaction. Congrats, by the way !

[EastMidsMummy]

Like this:

"I am pregnant! This baby is such a lovely surprise after years of treatment to get []."

You don't have to script or prompt her response. If she's going to be rude, she's going to be rude.

And congratulations!

[janethegirl2]

Send her a knitting pattern

[aprilanne]

how about mum i am having an other baby is,nt it wonderful we are so happy to be having little brother or sister for dc1.. congratulations by the way what is her problem god my mother was delighted and told everyone apart from the postman maybe

[TrinityForce]

Yeah don't tell her. Fuck that.

Psh giving her the time of day just for her to piss all over your chips.

But if you're slightly more mature than me, perhaps a round robin text of the likes suggested up thread. Congratulations :)

[Crazypetlady]

I wouldn't even entertain her let her find out herself. She is a drama llama (unless their is a back story) putting on the dramatics taking attention from your lovely news

[RudeElf]

Dont tell her. When she finally realises just say "well you werent happy for my first time so i didnt involve you this time"

[HypnoticButton]

Congratulations!

Agree with telling her the way you'd tell a friend.

Short, to the point.

[EweAreHere]

Congratulations, OP. Lovely news.

Tell people who will be happy and excited for you first. It will cushion the non-interest. Don't take it to heart and try to remember her reaction is about her, not you.

[slicedfinger]

I'd wait till I knew she would be out and leave a bright and breezy message on her answering machine. But I am a coward, and my DM was the same.

[StillYummy]

No back story. She just has difficulty saying nice things to my face. She says them all behind my back hahaha

[StillYummy]

I think generic text and immediate scan pic on face book. Now just gotta keep everything crossed for good news.

[coconutpie]

Don't tell her? Wait til you are ready to announce it to everybody and then you can just send her a message then when telling everybody else. She doesn't deserve to be told in advance with how she treated the news of your first pregnancy.

Congrats

[coconutpie]

I would not put the scan pic on Facebook though!

[Almostfifty]

How awful you're worrying about sharing news that should be joyful to everyone.

My DM was similar, never really bothered with her grandchildren, and I've always felt sad she missed out on so much love.

[PickledLilly]

Congratulations OP. My Mum was bloody awful when I announced my second pregnancy. I knew she would be and I was dreading it but I gritted my teeth through the rudeness and didn't bite back, tried not to let it take the shine off and have tried not to mention it to her since! She's still not really talking to me but as long as you and your partner are excited you have to try not to let her behaviour affect you.