I've had to have a serious word to DH today because of his bad habit of interrupting. We had a friend to stay for two days and nights and this friend is a VERY funny guy. He's a brilliant story teller and a great listener so I was MADDENED by DH's constant interruptions.
He'd interrupt our friend AND me in mid flow...DH isn't shy and gets his turn to speak but that wasn't enough and he wanted OUR turns too.
I asked him about it...also pointed out that his habit of entering a room already speaking loudly as he comes in is BAD. He does this and ruins current conversations.
Why do people do it? He says he might forget what he has to say but I'm dumbfounded by that...if someone's telling a great story, WHY would you ruin it like that? SO selfish.
I was kind about it because I think he had no idea how bad it was....he took it on board and also apologised to our friend who was interested in the habit...he wanted to know where it comes from because he's the sort ofguy who loves learning more about people. ANyway...if you do this why?
AIBU?
To just not understand people who interrupt?
MattDillonsPants · 28/02/2016 14:15
I am guilty of this when having a lively conversation with several others. I tend to get over excited and butt in. It drives my brother mad. I do try not to do it. 
I do it, and I can honestly say it's because my brain is working on processing about seventeen things at the same time. If I've gone quiet, and someone starts speaking, unfortunately it doesn't mean my brain is quite finished, and I often absolutely not deliberately interrupt because I need to finish what I was saying.
There's no way the other person could know I was not finished. I mean, I didn't know it myself. 
I do work on it. It's the product of a very busy brain. I apologise.
My mum is terrible for this but I also find myself doing it too sometimes. In fact me and my mum were having a conversation about it only yesterday!
She said the reason she does it (which is the same reason I do it) is because if someone is speaking and you think of something you want to say but you know that other person is going to be a long time speaking, you interrupt because if you don't by the time they finish you've forgotten what it was you wanted to say.
It's rude though isn't it?!
My memory is shot and I've really made an effort in the last few years not to interrupt because I know I find it bloody annoying!
Because of this I find myself saying a lot..."sorry I've forgotten what I was going to say now". But I suppose it lets other people speak so ....
Dh does this too - sometimes I say to him, "I'm sorry, did the middle of MY sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?" - with this 
face.
Yes I'm also a good listener, when I'm not shoving my thoughts in in case I forget obvs 
.
You need to be equally as rude in my opinion. When my mum does it I always say "would you mind he's trying to speak" but it's a bit of a standing joke now between the two of us.
He needs to train himself not to do it.
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