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SashimiStevens Sun 28-Feb-16 13:16:16

Guy started at my workplace. Quite full of himself, others have not warmed to him that much.

We all went to a training event for which we were required to wear name badges. Mind very clearly said "Alice". Everyone else was able to call me by this name.

Guy in question decided to rename me, "Georgina". At first I politely corrected him as did other work colleagues. But he just didn't stop! Used my name in most sentences, "So Georgina as I was saying... Georgina I think we should do this"

To me it just screams that he thinks he can walk all over me and that my opinions don't matter!

What should I do? I think it's the height of rudeness to be honest. He's not stupid. Why can't he remember?

Oysterbabe Sun 28-Feb-16 13:18:11

I'm sure he thinks he's being hilarious. You need to tell him you don't find it funny and to use your actual name.

Jibberjabberjooo Sun 28-Feb-16 13:19:48

He does remember. But he thinks it funny. I suggest you tell him that unless he uses your actual name you won't be responding to him and if it continues you'll take it to hr.

mamas12 Sun 28-Feb-16 13:20:08

Call him fido

Jibberjabberjooo Sun 28-Feb-16 13:20:35

Oh and tell him stop being a dick,

Vagabond Sun 28-Feb-16 13:20:41

Tosser

EsmesBees Sun 28-Feb-16 13:20:45

That is the height of rudeness! I'd stop responding unless he uses your name.

However, I had a boss who used to do this a few years but it was genuine forgetfulness and she called me by a name very similar to my own so I used to let it go. She used to do it to everyone.

Youarentkiddingme Sun 28-Feb-16 13:22:23

It's because he's a dick with a complex.

Ignore him unless he uses your name and when you address him fall him something else! Only stop when he starts calling you Alice again!

SashimiStevens Sun 28-Feb-16 13:26:36

Thanks everyone.

I genuinely don't think he does it to be funny or because he thinks it's funny. Other people listening in are a bit wtf and pull faces because they don't get it either. He's just a dick.

I think he genuinely sees it as "I don't have time to rename you anything else in my head, you're Georgina to me, get over it". Tosser

StitchesInTime Sun 28-Feb-16 13:39:29

I'd stop responding unless he uses your name too.

Tempting as it might be, I wouldn't start calling him Fido or suchlike as it might give the false impression you think this sort of thing is okay.

StitchesInTime Sun 28-Feb-16 13:40:10

I would find it hard to avoid making snide comments about him having memory problems if this continues though.

PovertyPain Sun 28-Feb-16 13:42:04

"I think I see you as a Richard. I'll just call you Dick for short." Childish I know, but tempting.

NightWanderer Sun 28-Feb-16 13:45:01

It reminds me of this story where ago-worker refused to learn a woman's name.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3382414/Black-woman-s-story-got-revenge-white-worker-refused-learn-hood-black-girl-names-sound-takes-Twitter-storm.html

Your coworker sounds like a twat.

originalmavis Sun 28-Feb-16 13:47:40

Does he really know its the wrong name? Or has it got stuck in his head and can't help himself (or appologise for getting it wrong)?

I called one director the completely wrong name for 2 years (nobody corrected me) and she only mentioned it when I was leaving. It was the name of a rather pretty, glam actress do maybe she wasn't too offended!

I was sure it was her name and didn't work with her - so only chatted in the canteen and Iift.

hmcAsWas Sun 28-Feb-16 13:48:38

Idiot! (him, obviously)

LoveBoursin Sun 28-Feb-16 14:03:59

Yes I would make a point of using a different name for him all the time too.

BonitaFangita Sun 28-Feb-16 14:07:50

I think in future you should just keep referring to him as 'Dick'

MyCatHasStaff Sun 28-Feb-16 14:18:23

Every time he does say (deadpan) 'my name is Alice' and refuse to engage any further until he acknowledges what you've said.

TheSquashyHatOfMrGnosspelius Sun 28-Feb-16 14:19:55

Yeah Dick definitely. Why not, he is one. Bloody hell!

lorelei9 Sun 28-Feb-16 14:24:58

Your assessment is right, he's got it in his head and he's too big of an arse to correct it

I'd not respond to him. Also, as a colleague, I'd say "who's Georgina?" and refuse to engage till he got your name right. Will any of your colleagues do that?

My name, in real life, is not English. One client, on meeting me, said "oh I can't pronounce that, can I just call you Jane?" (what she was suggesting was at least starting with the same initial). Before I could say "no" my boss spluttered "well you could call her Robert but it's not her name! Just make an effort". The woman apologised but it was awful.

magicstar1 Sun 28-Feb-16 14:26:01

I had one of them in college...two days of me calling him F*ckhead had him apologising and begging me to stop. Give your guy a nickname til he stops.

Jux Sun 28-Feb-16 14:26:19

Definitely call him Fido. Every time he calls you Georgina, respond "Well, Fido, ....".

WhereYouLeftIt Sun 28-Feb-16 14:27:46

originalmavis, I did that too once, confused the name of a supervisor with that of a manager, still don't know how I managed it, we all wore nametags blush. This continued for some months. OK they shared an initial, but really ... <hangs head>

The difference is, when the supervisor pointed it out to me I apologised and never got her name wrong again. And I was suitably embarrassed. This guy refuses to acknowledge he is wrong, despite having been told several times, by several people. So I have to conclude that he is not doing it accidentally or in error, he is doing it deliberately.

Sashimi, I'd hazard a guess that you're pretty good at your job and he is trying to destabilise you. Nip it in the bud and mention it to your manager that X insists on calling you by a different name despite having been corrected by yourself AND OTHERS and that you're finding it a bit disrespectful. Behaviour like his depends on people being too polite to push back. Stop him in his tracks. Otherwise, you may find after a few months that you are hating going in to work, looking for another job, etc. etc. (as is his plan). He's a bully. Call him on it.

MadamDeathstare Sun 28-Feb-16 14:34:12

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Loqo Sun 28-Feb-16 14:35:30

I wouldn't call him a different name even if it's funny. He will take it to mean that you like 'banter' and it will probably encourage him to carry on.

I suggest that you address it more directly by telling him that you don't like it and that you want him to stop. Start off politely then, if he continues, get more forthright. If he won't stop then complain about him.

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