To hope my DD doesn't turn out to be introverted?

(94 Posts)
Jellybeam Sun 28-Feb-16 12:06:20

DD is 8/9 weeks and she's quite a calm baby. She only cries when hungry, needs a change or a cuddle. I do worry that this may be down to her personality, being the quiet type. Which may not work in her favour when she's older e.g. Making friends and being likeable in school/work, participating in group activities, going for a job which requires a more outgoing/social personality.

Has anyone had a calm baby that actually turned out to be a confident adult?

MaudGonneMad Sun 28-Feb-16 12:07:07

I think you're overthinking things. She's only 2 months old!

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 28-Feb-16 12:07:51

Enjoy your calm baby!

I really wouldn't worry about how confident she'll be yet and besides there is lots she/you can do as she gets older to increase confidence.

Branleuse Sun 28-Feb-16 12:08:03

shes a baby. She will be whoever she is

Creatureofthenight Sun 28-Feb-16 12:10:06

There's nothing wrong with being a quiet type! Being quiet is not the same as lacking in confidence.
But I think you're overthinking things a bit.

StitchesInTime Sun 28-Feb-16 12:10:27

I think you're overthinking things too. And I'm sceptical about whether you can tell an extrovert from an introvert at 8 weeks old.

papayasareyum Sun 28-Feb-16 12:10:54

my youngest was a calm baby.
She is now a very loud, stroppy, outgoing child!
My eldest is an introvert. Nothing wrong with that. She's aiming for a job which uses her abilities rather than being a loud, bubbly talker

OddBoots Sun 28-Feb-16 12:10:57

I'm a confident and happy introvert, being an introvert (if she is) doesn't mean she will lack confidence. I'm very content in my own company which makes it easier to be happy in some ways.

treaclesoda Sun 28-Feb-16 12:11:29

My DS was a very calm baby and at 4 he is incredibly chatty, outgoing and sociable.

My DD was fairly calm too, but is incredibly introverted. Being introverted has not stood in the way of her forming friendships at primary age, although I do fear for her as she gets older.

ollieplimsoles Sun 28-Feb-16 12:12:11

My DD is like yours! She became very sassy at 3 months and she still always knows what she wants.

I think you are really over thinking!

mommy2ash Sun 28-Feb-16 12:12:31

My dd was very calm as a baby and while a but sensitive is not introverted in the least. Really don't worry about it

TheStoic Sun 28-Feb-16 12:14:21

Oh god, anything but introverted! That is the worst possible outcome for any human.

You're right to be worried, OP. I'd be getting her into counselling ASAP.

imwithspud Sun 28-Feb-16 12:16:55

You're overthinking things. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert.

AliciaMayEmory Sun 28-Feb-16 12:19:02

My DD was the loudest baby and the most confident toddler, but now at age 8 she is so shy and will allow herself to be pushed around. You really can't tell what they'll be like as older children or adults from the early years. Many factors influence them as they grow up. Just enjoy these early weeks. They go by so fast.

Triliteral Sun 28-Feb-16 12:21:33

Not quite an adult yet, but my lovely calm baby daughter is now a lovely calm 16 year old. She has a few good friends, but is also self-sufficient and unswayed by peer-pressure. She isn't massively outgoing, nor is she especially ambitious, but does work hard at school.

Children are all different. Love them for what they are. Would it be a disaster if she wanted a job that didn't require an outgoing personality? Personally I don't care what my daughter wants to do, so long as she is happy with it. Teach her that however she is, you love her for herself. That will stay with her forever.

theDudesmummy Sun 28-Feb-16 12:37:10

What's wrong being introverted? And people change anyway, through ife. I would have been seen as a very introverted/shy/socially phobic child and teenager but I didn't grow up to be like that.

EssentialHummus Sun 28-Feb-16 12:39:53

Another one here to say that introvert and confident aren't at odds. I'm both (I think), it just means that I tend to get my energy from alone time rather than time with others. Plus quiet people are the most interesting! <biased> grin

BathshebaDarkstone Sun 28-Feb-16 12:40:48

What Maud said.

decisionsdecisions123 Sun 28-Feb-16 12:41:11

I typed the profile of your baby into www.howtotellwhatyourbabywillbelikeasanadultwhentheyarejust9weeksold and it said that basically she would most likely have around 3-4 friends at school. Her favourite subject would be English Literature and yep, you guessed it, she would grow up to be a library assistant in a semi-rural library. Her favourite material would be tweed and she would definitely wear glasses.

NeedsAsockamnesty Sun 28-Feb-16 12:42:02

It's not unlike that in another 2 months she will be sounding like a banshee and you will want to join in with the crying.

What will be will be.it is not worth fretting about

BillBrysonsBeard Sun 28-Feb-16 12:42:55

Is this thread real!?
1. A calm baby doesn't mean they will be an introvert.
2. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. The world is made up of both types.
3. If she does seem introverted in the future, do not make her feel bad for this or try and make her extroverted. We are who we are and both are fine.

paxillin Sun 28-Feb-16 12:43:18

The only thing you can say about her so far is she's female. Enjoy your calm baby.

Rebecca2014 Sun 28-Feb-16 12:43:35

Is this a joke?

HPsauciness Sun 28-Feb-16 12:44:06

If the calmness persists, then being calm is a lovely life trait!

There's nothing wrong with being introverted. I think most people are a mixture anyway of extrovert when they need to be (work) and introverted in needing time alone. Some are more one than the other.

I don't think having a calm baby is something to worry about, are you ok?

Millymollymoo8 Sun 28-Feb-16 12:44:29

My first child was the perfect baby....never cried!
She is super confident, never shuts up and drives me mad.

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