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to wonder why if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all does not apply on mumsnet

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susieb19 Sat 27-Feb-16 21:28:38

I don't really get it..

I scroll through the posts on mumsnet and browse things people post that interest me (for whatever reason)..and it never fails to amaze me how people can be ar*ed to write something sarcastic or unsympathetic or just be mean to the op. Who could be bothered?! (I'll soon see I suppose!).

It's not about people disagreeing with the op about whatever they have raised. It's the way it's done. Is it because it's anonymous? But it's not fully anonymous is it. I've spotted people in the education thread especially who you see time and again posting nasty, sarcastic replies.

I'm no flower waving hippy by any means but can't life be rubbish enough sometimes without us pulling each other down too (here comes the flame). I don't expect fairy land but just a degree of general kindness. hmm

BlueEyesAndDarkChocolate Sat 27-Feb-16 21:30:11

You are right. There are some very horrid people around. :-(

BorisJohnsonsHair Sat 27-Feb-16 21:35:14

But it is for discussion and opinion. And also for swearing so no need to put * in your words.

VulcanWoman Sat 27-Feb-16 21:35:57

Some people use this site to take their shit out on others, best just to be ignored.

blackcatwhitewhiskers Sat 27-Feb-16 21:37:13

Firstly, being 'nice' isn't always helpful.

Secondly, discussion and debate is a huge part of mumsnet.

Thirdly, it would be boring grin

However I do hate it when people disagree with the op just for the sake of being disagreeable.

susieb19 Sat 27-Feb-16 21:37:17

Ha ha that really did make me laugh out loud pp - thanks re the asterisks!!!so I can say arrrrrse like father jack openly. Arrrrrrrrse.

U2HasTheEdge Sat 27-Feb-16 21:38:04

Some people are arseholes who like to make themselves feel better by making others feel shit.

Some have no empathy and some seem to forget there is a real person behind the screen.

U2HasTheEdge Sat 27-Feb-16 21:39:06

There is a massive difference between disagreeing with someone, even quite passionately and just being a cunt for being a cunts sake.

Easy to spot the difference.

susieb19 Sat 27-Feb-16 21:39:44

Discussion and debate is why I come on mumsnet. I said in my op its not about people disagreeing with the op. My question is how someone can be arsed (thanks pp'r!) to write demeaning replies.

MrsWhirling Sat 27-Feb-16 21:40:11

I said this the other day on a post. Mumsnet is full of horrid bitchy women at the moment it would seem. I do think it is because it's anonymous.?

thebiscuitindustry Sat 27-Feb-16 21:42:21

I think the vast majority of posts are sensible and helpful. It's fine to disagree and most people here do so respectfully. Sometimes things go too far and that's what the "report" link is for.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sat 27-Feb-16 21:42:39

Yanbu.

I don't know whether I've just not noticed before, but the first comments on any AIBU thread are quite often awful. I try and get in first now, just to be nice!

Agree with you op. I don't agree with everyone, all the time, but why be downright nasty? I don't see the need for it either.

Thornrose Sat 27-Feb-16 21:44:49

I only really use MN so I have nothing to compare it with.

I have to say I don't find it full of "horrid bitchy women". I've been moved to tears more than once over the last couple of days by compassionate caring women.

What other forums do you use, are they "nicer" then MN?

JolseBaby Sat 27-Feb-16 21:50:56

Wrote post, MN won't accept it. Bloody website has been really glitchy all day!

CBA to re-type it all but YANBU basically, although I have met people like this IRL.

squoosh Sat 27-Feb-16 21:51:56

For an anonymous internet forum I find MN to be pretty civil on the whole.

Vintage45 Sat 27-Feb-16 21:51:57

Personally I've tried other networks and they are bland and boring. Mumsnet is NEVER boring and I love it for that.

Real life is no different so why should it be so on line?

southeastastra Sat 27-Feb-16 21:53:48

mn has always been a say how you feel site, i think it will be a sad day when people bring on the 'if you can't say anything nice' line

usual Sat 27-Feb-16 21:54:17

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southeastastra Sat 27-Feb-16 21:54:18

though mn seems to be on the 'turn'

usual Sat 27-Feb-16 21:55:06

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susieb19 Sat 27-Feb-16 21:56:53

But imho people in real life are different. If you got chatting to a stranger or even to someone you know and they said something like 'I'm considering a private school for my kids'...its unlikely you'd say 'it's people like you who are driving the state system into the ground with your sanctimonious bullshit about wanting the best for your child..'...as an example...

MammaTJ Sat 27-Feb-16 21:57:58

There will always be the odd one or two who are just out for an argument, such is life on 'tinternet!

I try not to engage these people and just disagree where I genuinely do disagree!

Vintage45 Sat 27-Feb-16 21:58:05

grin Ive been on others and wanted to bash my head off the table to realise I was still alive.

Mumsnet is bloody unique and long may it continue!

Fight your corner or fluff off grin

usual Sat 27-Feb-16 21:59:15

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