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To think sister isn't happy with our 'happy news'?

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DimpledDonut Sat 27-Feb-16 19:35:31

DP and I are expecting. It has come as a bit of a shock...

I sent a group email (close family) with the scan picture and everyone got very exited, had a barrage of messages and phone calls. My sister said wow what a shock, congrats, and haven't heard from her since. She hasn't liked the announcement DP made to his acquaintances on Facebook or my scan picture.

She uses Social media a lot so I don't think it's a case of rather having heard in person - we live pretty far away from all our family.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Sat 27-Feb-16 19:37:16

Could she be envious. Congratulations BTW.

nephrofox Sat 27-Feb-16 19:38:57

Is there a reason why you think she wouldn't be happy about it?

jimpam Sat 27-Feb-16 19:39:18

Could she be TTC? Or having fertility issues? Maybe she feels jealous for some reason? More than likely it's something about her that's causing this reaction, not you. My SIL said "that's a surprise" & left it at that- she is older than DP & really wants kids but her DP does not hmm

DoesAnyoneReadTheseThings Sat 27-Feb-16 19:39:25


Maybe she's upset you told her via email rather than over the phone or face to face? If you're usually close I'd call her and have a chat about it, if you're not usually close just ignore and concentrate on your pregnancy.

DimpledDonut Sat 27-Feb-16 19:39:49

I wonder if it's something to do with her not being keen on DP? I hadn't thought she could be jealous, they do have a young DD but not ttc as far as I'm aware...

Beth2511 Sat 27-Feb-16 19:40:01

Some people just dont get excited by pregnancys. My dad didnt even congratulate us but worships the ground my dd walks on now she is here.

WorraLiberty Sat 27-Feb-16 19:40:14

Why don't you phone her and see what's up?

Congratulations by the way.

Littleallovertheshop Sat 27-Feb-16 19:41:07

You told her by email rather than phone/face to Face? Could be that if you're close?

Narp Sat 27-Feb-16 19:43:13

She didn't like your post?shock . Now I've heard it all!

Call me an old gimmer but I think relationships amount to a bit more than clicking a like button

startingmylifeagain Sat 27-Feb-16 19:43:17

Congratulations on your news, her attitude does seem a bit off.
Personally I would be ringing my sister and saying I'm getting a weird vibe from you, what's going on?but I don't know what kind of relationship you have with her.

JuxtapositionRecords Sat 27-Feb-16 19:44:57

To be honest I would feel a bit put out to find out my sister was expecting over a group email rather than phone/face to face. Are you close to each other? If not there could be every possibility she is TTC but hasn't spoken to you about it.

Maybe try phoning her or meeting up and see how she is about it?

Iggi999 Sat 27-Feb-16 19:46:08

Maybe she wanted you to tell her individually. You could still do that even on Facebook! Why not just send her a message. As she already has a child you could ask her advice about something. She may well be ttc dc2. I don't think you've given her much of a chance tbh.

JuxtapositionRecords Sat 27-Feb-16 19:47:02

Also I find it odd when people post their scan pictures on Facebook. So I would never 'like' that sort of post even if it was my sister.

Iggi999 Sat 27-Feb-16 19:47:03

Does she have reason to not like your dp, is she worried about you now being tied to him?

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sat 27-Feb-16 19:49:00

I agree with Worra pick up the phone and ring her. There are a million reasons why she hasn't been in touch and no point trying to guess.

Maybe she is really busy, has some personal problems to deal with in her own life or has an issue with your DP?

JosephBrodsky Sat 27-Feb-16 19:51:03

I think you've answered it yourself. She doesn't care for your husband and isn't thrilled you're having a baby with him.

Though tbh, I'm not sure what more you expected from her. She responded and congratulated you...?

sykadelic Sat 27-Feb-16 19:51:07

TBH our family would have the same reaction if one of my SIL's got pregnant. No-one really likes their boyfriends and we would worry about being stuck with them in their life now. However of course once the child was here everyone would love it.

Also agree she could be TTC and is a little shocked, especially depending how long you've been with your bf

Could also be upset that you didn't tell her directly and instead told her as part of a group.

DimpledDonut Sat 27-Feb-16 19:56:46

We have a group just for our parents and siblings, we chat via the group daily as don't live near to one another and it means we can all talk at once.

SaucyJack Sat 27-Feb-16 19:57:26

How many congratulations do you need?

She said congrats. What else are you expecting?

My brother was much the same as your sister. He was very pleased; just didn't need daily updates on my tit size and cervical mucus.

AutumnLeavesArePretty Sat 27-Feb-16 19:57:29

I'd be deeply hurt if I found my sister was pregnant by email and at 12 weeks. Why would you tell close family that way?

It could be that she doesn't like your partner and he's now going to be around for a while.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Sat 27-Feb-16 19:58:47

Maybe shes just not that excited about it. Maybe she'll be more involved once baby is born.

Loqo Sat 27-Feb-16 20:01:48

Is it really early in your pregnancy? Some people don't like to say anything too soon. Also, is it possible she 'dissaproves' for some reason?

gleekster Sat 27-Feb-16 20:08:31

I don't understand - she has said congratulations? So what is it you feel affronted by? Surely you aren't this worked up about someone not "liking" your DPs facebook post?

You say she doesn't like DP - maybe she has "acquaintanced" him on FB and so hasn't even seen his post? That's what I do with people I can't unfriend for dread of WW3, but can't stand to have their posts polluting my newsfeed.


LavenderDoll Sat 27-Feb-16 20:09:26

Does she not like your partner?
Is there a reason why she might not think it good news?
Would she normally like your partners updates on fb?

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