I am expecting lots of people to say that IABU because I know that the prevailing MN view is that children should be allowed to invite who they want to their parties. I have my flameproof jacket ready, and I am a big girl, so I can take it. :)
However, there is no way I would allow my child to do this.
Basically, my daughter has recently started comp (so is 12). She is the only person from her old school to move to this one, but she did have a group of friends before she started from an outside school activity. One of these (B) lives close to us and dd considers her a best friend.
6 months on and the girls have a very similar friendship group, but things are a lot rockier between B and dd. DD is very definite that she wants to be friends with B, B blows fairly hot and cold. But, as I say, their friends are pretty much all mutual, so they socialise a lot.
B is having a birthday party. She has invited the whole friendship group. Except for dd - she has instead told dd that she isn't inviting her because a lot of the people coming don't really like her. She has said that they (B and dd) will go to the cinema together instead on another day.
Her parents are OK with this - they seem to think it shows their daughter is being sensitive to the peer group. Her daughter has told them it is because a particular girl (C) dislikes dd - despite the fact that dd was invited to C's birthday party 3 weeks ago.
DD is of course distraught - not only is she being excluded, it is also being inferred that her friendship group all secretly dislike her.
There is just no way I would knowingly allow my daughter to exclude someone in this way. I am upset on dds behalf. I think it is hugely unkind. Am I being unreasonable in that?
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Oakmaiden · 27/02/2016 11:01
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