DP and I got engaged on NYE, so long too long ago.
I really want to start talking about the wedding and what we want, making plans, setting a date etc.
DP seems very reluctant to have any converstations about it and its starting to bug me a bit. FWIW, I'm thinking about setting a date for 2018 so a few years away to give us time to save up and plan etc.
I guess I just want to be able to start saving for things we need or maybe even paying some of the stuff off in instalments so we don't have a massive bill right near the end but I can't book anything or even look as DP doesn't want to talk about it yet.
He's said he wants to leave it a little while as we only just got engaged really, which I can understand but with wedding stuff costing so much money (venues etc) I think it makes more sense to start talking about it now and trying to plan even a rough budget so we know how much we will need.
What I'm worried about it that either a) years and years will go by and DP just won't be that bothered about getting married and it will never actually materialise or b) that we'll decided a date but then won't have enough time to save the money we need.
I do think that the fact I'm not yet divorced from exH is an issue for DP although he hasn't outright said it. I'm in the process of applying for divorce, set the papers off but unfortunately had them sent back as there was one box I hadn't filled it . I understand why this would be an issue for him but our divorce will be very very straightforward, there are no solicitors involved, it won't be contested and there are no financial or childcare arrangements to worry about so it is just a case of the judge approving the forms and waiting the necessary time period to get the decree absolute. Aibu to think that the whole process shouldn't take any longer than a year so why can't we book a date for a few years time and start planning?
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ciabattav0nbreadstickz · 26/02/2016 12:21
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