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yougetme Thu 25-Feb-16 22:01:42

Dds friend showed their group of mates a whole wad of money when they got together at half term .Im talking well into 3 figures here. She is a normal 15 year old slighty geeky ,swotty type of girl. Not yet into going out at nights except to sleepovers with the rest of the gang.

She says she was given the money by her parents - for valentines day!

Apparently she has previously had a lot of money at times but this is a lot more. She has siblings and her family background is normal working class so not the type to have money to throw around.

I feel very unsettled about this for some reason.

Should I urge Dd to speak to a teacher?

RakeMeHomeCountryToads Thu 25-Feb-16 22:06:04

I don't understand what you're getting at with this post. What does it have to do with the teacher?

TheoriginalLEM Thu 25-Feb-16 22:07:57

Maybe she has generous parents? Alternatively she is hacking into the banks computors and is filtering money into her account? Blackmailing DaviD cameron that she has pics of him fucking a kangaroo?

IloveAntbuthateDec Thu 25-Feb-16 22:08:41

Who estimated the amount of money contained in the wad? Your dd? Why would it be schools responsibility? What do you think is going on OP?

helensburgh Thu 25-Feb-16 22:08:57

Nothing to do with school.
I'd tell you're daughter to Tey and move the topic on conversation on if she mentions it again..
V odd
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Does either parent work in the kind of job that would involve being paid cash? She's probably just 'borrowed' it from her parents safe to show off in front of her friends.

usual Thu 25-Feb-16 22:09:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PurpleDaisies Thu 25-Feb-16 22:10:56

What do you suspect is going on?

edwinbear Thu 25-Feb-16 22:11:07

When did it become an issue for a 15 year old to have £100+? I don't understand the problem and what it has to do with school....or anyone really.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 25-Feb-16 22:11:26

What do you suspect? That she's stolen the money from somewhere?

ManneryTowers Thu 25-Feb-16 22:13:05

So less than a grand but more than £200 then? Not that odd really if the parents are super generous.

usual Thu 25-Feb-16 22:14:18

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DayToDayShit Thu 25-Feb-16 22:14:27

3 figures? do you mean she had well over 100 quid? I would not say that was odd.

RandomMess Thu 25-Feb-16 22:16:06

Was it from her parents or some "boy" she's met either on-line or in RL?

bexcee8 Thu 25-Feb-16 22:16:54

My daughter is 15, worked all of half term and got paid in cash so I don't find this an issue at all.

yougetme Thu 25-Feb-16 22:16:55

It doesnt have anything to do with school .

Im worried that something else is going on that she needs to be protected from. And school could help put some safeguarding in pace or something.

I dont know - either she has stolen the money or was given it by someone else .But who gives a 15 year old £500?

It wasnt estimated - the other girls saw a thick wad of notes in her wallet and asked her as girls do. She just said her parents had given her the money for valentines day.

DD told me because she wasnt sure what to think. And neither do I.

The parents ,as far as Im aware, both work in low skilled work and I would be very surprised if they had a safe to steal from. The norm round here with a growing family is to celebrate if theres money left at the end of the month.

raffle Thu 25-Feb-16 22:17:50

OP is obviously concerned.
She's debating telling the school because they are much better equipped to assess the situation.
If she doesn't know the girls parents then making school aware of this unusual situation makes sense.
Not sure why everyone is questioning this?

RakeMeHomeCountryToads Thu 25-Feb-16 22:20:32

I can't speak for anyone else but I questioned it because I couldn't see why it would be anything to do with the school. I see what you mean though raffle.

ghostyslovesheep Thu 25-Feb-16 22:21:10

OP I don't actually think you are being too unreasonable - a 15 year old with £500 should make us a little hmm really

Having lots of money suddenly can be a sign of CSE and I think a quiet word with the school might be in order - if they find out it was from her mum and dad no harm done - but I think it's right to be a bit cautious and ask them to check x

ghostyslovesheep Thu 25-Feb-16 22:22:49

I think I'd make the school aware because a) it wouldn't drag my daughter into it like it would if I poked around b) the school safeguarding lead would know how to handle it c) they can contact the parents easily

nocoolnamesleft Thu 25-Feb-16 22:35:50

I'm afraid that my horrible suspicious mind also thought "please, not child sexual exploitation". It probably isn't...but I can see why the OP is concerned.

UnhappyNeedHelp Thu 25-Feb-16 22:38:39

I would mention it to school. When I was in year 11 a friend suddenly had lots of money and it was from CSE. Trust your instincts.

BigQueenBee Thu 25-Feb-16 22:45:15

I would be a bit concerned. I know a lot of less than well off parents are often more generous with gifts at birthday's, Christmas etc, but to have £ 500 in notes does make me wonder if there might be something nefarious going on( an older man?) ; I'd have a word with her parents.

BoomBoomsCousin Thu 25-Feb-16 22:58:07

I assume your concern is that she's being abused by someone and is getting the money from them? I don't think that's a ridiculous thought. 500 quid for valentine's day isn't a particularly normal gift from parents.

I would be more inclined to talk to the girl's parents and check they are aware of the money rather than go through the school. But I can see how having the school approach them could feel like an extra barrier to protect your DD from fall out.

BigQueenBee Thu 25-Feb-16 23:00:01

Agree with previous post. No need to drag SS and Schools into it at this stage.
There might be a reasonable explanation.

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