to not want to go on holiday alone?

(22 Posts)
happygoround Sun 21-Feb-16 21:31:41

Perennially single, no children.

My friends are all coupled up, so are going away with their own partners. I was checking today at lunch if anyone did want to go away, and one of my friends said I should go away myself.

I really don't want to. I live on my own and I'm really a bit fed up of my own company.

I've looked at group holidays but nothing really appeals to me- they seem to be either very young or very old.

lucymootoo Sun 21-Feb-16 21:36:52

I know someone who frequently goes on group holidays. It's a real mixture of ages (she's 27) and she loves it.

happygoround Sun 21-Feb-16 21:38:18

Do you know which company she uses, lucy?

MillionToOneChances Sun 21-Feb-16 21:38:55

I went on my own last year having toyed with the idea of joining an Explore tour. I actually bumped into the tour, or some of it, at a tourist attraction. Two members had got lost and derailed the whole thing. The tour leader looked like an exhausted cat herder grin

I've done a few holidays alone, touring around, and they've been really good. I was very nervous before the first one, but I'm so glad I did. Lots of places have free walking tours you can join. I got the knack of making friends with 30-something backpackers and meeting them later for dinner and drinks, stopped me/us getting lonely.

originalusernamefail Sun 21-Feb-16 21:41:48

My sister is 28 and did trek America last year and loved it. It involves camping though so it depends if that's your thing.

happygoround Sun 21-Feb-16 21:43:20

That's the thing- definitely no camping!

BillSykesDog Sun 21-Feb-16 21:45:30

How about these guys:

www.theflashpack.co.uk

They do tours aimed primarily at 30-40 something females. They've got fab reviews too.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Sun 21-Feb-16 21:46:38

Ive gone on holiday on my own a lot and really enjoyed it.

Went to Thailand in my mid 20s on my own and just got chatting to people in the bungalow complex and ended up going on days out/evenings out with them.

Have also been to Egypt and got chatting to someone on the tripadvisor forum who was staying at the same hotel at the same time so we met up and hung out for the week.

Ive done a lot of camping on my own and now have a caravan and a dog and me and there dog go on caravanning/walking holidays and I love it.

MyFavouriteClintonisGeorge Sun 21-Feb-16 21:46:55

I did it. And met my now husband.

A single colleague did it (Explore walking holiday), and is still in touch with his group some years on.

Try something with a range of activities so you don't worry about being trapped with a bunch of people you don't like. Yoga holidays, art, cookery are good bets.

I don't recommend pitching up on a conventional holiday (hotel, rep, some organised tours) on your own unless you are very confident of making friends and not feeling lonely.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Sun 21-Feb-16 21:47:37

What sort of holiday would you like to go on? Beach holiday, city exploring?

BillSykesDog Sun 21-Feb-16 21:47:51

^^Their trips look like a lot are boutique hotels, not camping.

Xmasbaby11 Sun 21-Feb-16 21:51:12

I'd say generally you should work on finding new friends as it's hard if all of them are in couples. I'm married but approx a third of my friends are single and I'd have someone to go away with if I wanted.

For a holiday I think I'd definitely go alone - just spend some time looking into the kind of activities you'd enjoy.

happygoround Sun 21-Feb-16 21:51:49

What sort of holiday would you like to go on?

I like a mix of everything really, but definitely a bed at the end of the day. I'm not a big drinker and I find it hard to strike up conversations.

Theflashpack site does look good. I just don't know about going on my own.

museumum Sun 21-Feb-16 21:53:25

I've been away with exodus twice and there were loads of individual travellers (at least half the group).
I'd love to go on a yoga holiday alone.

Noodledoodledoo Sun 21-Feb-16 21:58:25

I did loads by myself as I had no friends to go with as all in couples or not wanting to do the kind of thing I wanted.

Explore, Intrepid, Exodus, I have used all of them - all offer completely different types of holidays so you should be able to find something that suits. Would recommend Explore and Intrepid.

My first one was in 2005 and did various types over the next 6 years - am still in touch with various people from different trips.

All of these companies used to be able to say what the age mix of people on the trip was like prior to booking. Although I went in my late 20s early 30s and sometimes the 60+ were the most fun on our trips!

Karoleann Sun 21-Feb-16 22:02:26

I've been to Le Sport in St Lucia a couple of times by myself (also been with friends and an ex-boyfriend). Its a very relaxing, easy holiday. You can meet up with other people if you want, but also spend time by yourself. Its nice now, summer is hotter and more humid.

happygoround Sun 21-Feb-16 22:10:29

I don't know. I just feel like I want to go away with people I know and I am comfortable with. I find it hard to make easy friendships straight away.

hefzi Sun 21-Feb-16 22:13:55

I've been with Explore, and it was brilliant - but by the same token, I love travelling on my own rather than with a group: look at the positives - you don't have to take anyone else's opinions into account, you can be completely selfish, you can do exactly what you want, when you want... it's great! Being on your own instead of with a mate means you have to make the effort, instead of staying in your comfort zone - plus, being on your own, you find people tend to strike up conversations with you anyway, so it doesn't matter if you're not great at that.

I was working away (not quite the same, I realise - but I was on my own, and it wasn't like there was an office or anyone that I could spend time with etc) last summer - I was staying in quite a nice resort-type hotel, and people were really pleasant: a couple of people invited me to go out to supper with them, which was nice, and there were a couple of solo travellers that I met at various times who I also shared meals with. So there's no need to be totally alone, unless you want to - and if you stay in more backpackery places, there are always loads of people to do things with if you don't like sight-seeing alone.

Explore/Intrepid/Exodus are brilliant if you're going somewhere difficult to travel alone, or if you aren't confident to go alone: there's a mix of organised things and free time, and also some optional stuff, and if it bothers you, you can pay extra to ensure you get a single room - otherwise, you might or might not, depending on the mix of the group. Everything's done for you, so it's really easy, with nothing to worry about: and there was an interesting mix of people when I went, from early 20s to early 80s. There was a group who met on a holiday before, and all four couples used to take a random Explore holiday together every year thereafter.

It's well worth travelling on your own - honestly!

happygoround Sun 21-Feb-16 22:16:26

you don't have to take anyone else's opinions into account, you can be completely selfish, you can do exactly what you want, when you want ... it's great! Being on your own instead of with a mate means you have to make the effort, instead of staying in your comfort zone

I would just really like to make the effort. As I said, I live on my own and I've never had a boyfriend. I really long to share a part of life with somebody.

Blankiefan Sun 21-Feb-16 22:17:18

One of my close friends is single and holidays solo most of the time.

She does activity based holidays which seem to take the edge off the socialising / singleness of it. She's done yoga hols, salsa hols and mostly diving hols. She is genuinely interested in all these things which helps.

f1fan2015 Sun 21-Feb-16 22:38:17

Have a look at Spice UK - they are an activity club who also do holidays. It is not a singles club. I have been on one of their chill out holidays to Turkey. They usually have a coordinator on the holiday (volunteer) who can arrange activities for people to share or you can do your own thing. They offer all sorts - chill out, sports, walking.

nocoolnamesleft Sun 21-Feb-16 22:38:56

I've had more holidays alone than any other way. When I was younger, I did semi-escorted coach tours. These days, it's cruises (no being up at the crack of dawn to repack!).

Nice comfy bed at the end of the day, meals sorted (and can choose wheher to join the group or find somewhere quieter), mixture of busy exploring days and lazy sea days...

Figure out what you want in a holiday, and take it from there. Though I will grant you that the levels they set single supplements at are a tad iniquitous.

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