DH went out "for a couple of drinks" at 7pm and staggered in at 2am. Before he left he made a point of telling me "it won't be a late one" as he has stuff to do tomorrow. He is not usually a big drinker (can take it or leave it most of the time, will go weeks without bothering) and doesn't go out often but when he does go out (especially with this particular group of friends) he reverts back to teenage boy status and doesn't know when to stop. The thing is, I have no problem with him staying out late as such. It's the fact that he told me he wouldn't he late (he volunteered that information, i didn't ask), we planned stuff for the next day and then he decided to roll in at 2am anyway that I find so inconsiderate.
DD(2) is suffering with her last two remaining teeth coming through so I got her into bed with me at about 1am having been up and down with her several times throughout the night. He woke her up when he staggered into our bedroom and tripped over his own feet. He then promptly passed out on the bed in all his clothes. So I can't sleep as I now have DD next to me, asleep again finally, but fidgeting and kicking me in the face every couple of minutes and DH the other side of her snoring like a fucking freight train 
He will be completely useless tomorrow (one of the reasons he doesn't drink that often is that he gets terrible hangovers) so after having next to no sleep tonight I will no doubt be spending my Sunday enteraining a stroppy, teething toddler while he spends most of the morning in bed sleeping it off and most of the afternoon moaning theatrically on the sofa.
We are having a lot of work done to the house at the moment and DH has arranged for three separate tradespeople to come round and quote for jobs tomorrow morning. I don't even know what they're coming to quote for specifically and probably won't be able to answer any of their questions so will look like a twat if DH hasn't surfaced by the time they turn up. He had also promised to cook a roast lunch tomorrow (his idea) which I very much doubt will happen now. Not a big deal, I'm perfectly capable of cooking for me and DD but the point is that I think if you offer to do something nice for someone you should bloody well do it otherwise it's just an empty gesture.
AIBU to be mightily pissed off and perusing the 'petty revenge' thread for inspiration 
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AIBU?
DH "it won't be a late one" (rant)
yorkshapudding · 21/02/2016 03:45
No YANBU.
My DH has been out tonight too with his DBro who is here for the week.
I really don't mind. They are twins, very close and don't see each other often as DSIL works abroad.
However we are supposed to be taking DC out tomorrow which DC are overly excited about and they have both come back a bit worse for wear.
They don't tend to get bad hangovers lucky sods even though they don't drink very often (BIL lives in a dry country)
DH words to me as he fell into bed were don't let me sleep in.
Is it wrong to get the DC to'wake' him up at 7
If anything it would be wrong not to, since he specifically asked you not to let him sleep in
Ha similar here too.
I'm still waiting for him to get home with his mate.
They are In a taxi now.
God that DS will be up in less that 3 hours. Expect he will want to go on the PlayStation. The mate is sleeping on sofa. :D
I actually don't mind at all, just fact that he text at midnight saying they'll be back soon. Men are (sometimes) twats
If anything it would be wrong not to, since he specifically asked you not to let him sleep in
Exactly
Am currently compiling a list in my head of DD's most irritatingly noisy toys so that I can subtly direct her to them when she gets up. I know it's petty and childish but I don't care
I think yab a little u. Sometimes I'd do anything for a really decent night out and actually, God forbid, get home later than I said.
If it isn't a regular thing OP then let it go. He is an adult. He doesn't need nagging as to how to run his life. If he misses an appointment then he can deal with the consequences. If he's a half decent human being as soon as he feels well enough today he will grovel. Then you have the rest of the week with him making it up to you 
restinglawyer
There will be many of us reading this and thinking how lucky you are to have a DH who can take or leave alcohol most of the time. I'd swap you the occasional bender and written off Sunday in a heartbeat.
I'm sure. 
That is a very sad but doubtless heartfelt post.
Look, better than Inconsiderate Arse Fred isn't the same as good enough.
I don't know how to say this without seeming like a judgemental pillock, but it needs saying. Working out whether your partner brings more to your life than he takes away is an intensely personal calculation, but when you're making it, don't assume that you have to accept some level of uncontrolled drinking.
Not all men drink to excess. I know they don't, because due to my own childhood
that was a non-negotiable in my partners as an adult.
You don't have to accept this, and the OP can resent her DH being a prat too, even if he's a prat only occasionally.
It is OKAY to be upset by drinkers disrupting family life with no warning.
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