Re. The sharing out of meat?

[ifgrandmahadawilly]

My partners family seem to have the idea that the men in the family get best pick of the meet.

I noticed once before when my partners mother cooked a roast that she asked the men which cuts they wanted. I was a bit bemused by this but she's generally a bit weird, uptight and controlling about food anyway, so i thought it was just one of her foibles.

Anyway, my partner's family has been staying with us for the past few days and as they were leaving today i did a roast. My partner always dishes out because I'm a bit clumsy and disorganised. But, HE then proceeded to ask the men which cut of the chicken they prefer and took the tastiest parts for himself and his sister's bf. Obviously, afterwards, I was like ' WTF was that?' Fully expecting some sort of concession from my partner that this was utter bellendry on his part. However, he actually tried to defend hos position. Saying that they are men and that's the way it is and they need more calories, blah, blah, blah.

I've told him I'm never cooking for his family again. Fuck them.

Who ibu?

[GloryGrant]

That's very, er, weird.

My dh gets whatever's left, after he has asked everyone else what bit they want.

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

I would cook for them again, serve all the women the best bits and fish fingers for the men

[isseywithcats]

or cook a joint that dosent have best bits like leg of pork or a topside of beef

[WickedWax]

Saying that they are men and that's the way it is Really? What an absolute gobshite.

My dad's side of the family always did this when I was a kid. I remember at Christmas/Easter, the men would go off to the pub while the women stayed at home and prepared the dinner. Then the men got the choice cuts of meat, waited on hand and foot, then went to relax in the lounge whilst the women cleared away and did the dishes.

Fuck that. Doesn't happen in my house.

[OvariesBeforeBrovaries]

Yeah I can be quite petty at times, this would make me cook an amazing roast for the women and serve up beans on toast for the men.

[TheWeeBabySeamus1]

Your partner actually said that as a man he deserves the best cut of the roast?! I would've rammed the carcass up his arse ( and then declared - no you're the carcass! )

But seriously that is a worrying attitude and shows that he clearly sees females as second class.

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

wasn't the chicken cold?? What with hanging about from the 1930s and all?

[AStreetcarNamedBob]

YANBU. What a pile of horse shit.

[Pidapie]

That's petty and weird! :( My inlaws asks everyone how their like their meat and dishes up accordingly. but everyone, not just the men!

[TheSpottedZebra]

Didn't it used to be a thing centuries ago when men typically did heavy manual work and women were not able to earn? Am amazed that it happened in 2016 though.

Who did the washing up?

[Hassled]

That's barking mad. That's 1950s sort of mad.

[lighteningirl]

Carcass

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

DJ family feed the Men first - gets my goat - I feed the kids first - stops them nagging! Much to MIL disgust!!

[HelenF35]

He is a bellend. Let him cook his own bloody roast!

[Artandco]

Wierd. Children get the first choice here as we give them the most tender/ easy to eat parts usually.

[BeaufortBelle]

Serving plate - warmed. Chicken carved, including legs. Offered to oldest/most senior lady first, male host last. End of. If DH had such awful table manners I wouldn't have married him. Same with all roasts. MIL can do it how she likes at her house. Would prefer DH to carve like my dad did but he's ham fisted -wasn't taught- so this way works.

[Fooshufflewickbannanapants]

My nan used to do this when we all used to troupe round for Sunday dinner. My grandad, dad and uncle got the most then my brother then mum and aunts then us girls and finally my nan. Fuck that!!!

[Wolfiefan]

FFS. They are men? So? That's the way it is? Not in this fucking house! They need more calories? Have an extra fucking potato.
Next time. Women get steak. They need iron.
Men get chips. They need calories!

[Obviouspretzel]

The cut of meat you choose has nothing to do with calories though, unless he is suggesting that the women might have to go without meat altogether in order for the men to eat? That part of it is bullshit, he is clearly stating that the men are top dogs and get first pick. Ridiculous.

[lighteningirl]

Dh tried this on me ten years ago when we met he served himself and his son, in my house, best bits off a roast chicken I got inedible stringy bits: me, who'd paid for it and cooked it, that shite never happened again I was so angry at the men get the best bits I was incoherent with rage.

[fuzzywuzzy]

I thought this was an antiquated practice, you know for when men traditionally went out and worked on farms and did hard manual labour so they needed to be fed enough to work & food was not so abundant as families were on limited incomes. No?

No place for it now.

[Needfinsnow]

Sounds like my family! The men get served first! And don't do a single thing to help prepare or clear up for a meal!

[Lovepancakes]

I was hoping this would help me with roast chicken as I never know whether to offer leg or breast meat but tend to give everyone a bit of both. My parents always let us have first choice as children. Anyway not the issue I thought!

YANBU to be annoyed but personally I would just gently make it fair by cutting the meat myself and distributing it . Also I'd always rather get on with ILs than fall out over differences even if I had to bite my lip - they aren't being malicious exactly, just silly / annoying

[HoneyDragon]

Beaufort.... I was brought up to serve senior lady first too.

[paxillin]

Easy. Next time you go DSIL and you first pick, then DMIL etc... reverse order from this time.