DH had an affair. I kicked him out. Divorce 99.99999% likely.
But in the months since he has left I have been happier. I miss having a husband/partner and the DC (2 & 5) miss having their dad at home but they very rarely ask where he is. And after a few Relate sessions I have found myself realising that he was a controlling emotionally abusive arsehole of the first degree. That the signs were there from when the DC were born and have slowly been getting worse. He was beginning to be quite financially controlling as well with justification needed for even the smallest purchases.
But I HATE BEING SINGLE. < Like so so so so so much
I miss sex, miss adult company, miss having someone to eat with, miss all sorts of things from the marriage. How the heck do I meet someone new? I work (2-3 days), I study (almost completed PhD), I am mum 24/7 except for the 4 hours he has them (there is good reason for this which I won't go into but for now that is all he and they can cope with).
Please can I hear some happy stories of how people met their OHs when they already had young children and stayed together - or am being totally unrealistic in my expectations? I am 38 FWIW, and would have dearly loved a third child (we weren't avoiding another when he cheated) - the dating sites in our region (rural) don't exactly fill me with promise!
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KrakenAwakes · 17/02/2016 10:40
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