Or Aib an unreasonable bore?(14 Posts)
Finally pg (6weeks) after endless fertility treatment and still haven't resolved my problems with v v under active thyroid. Feel absolutely wiped out constantly and never felt so under the weather. I recently moved out of London (now live over an hour away) but still commute into work every day. I have seen v little of friends since moving nearly 6 months ago but have just had one thing after another to cope with.
I have a large circle of friends in London and find myself constantly declining invitations out, mainly because I can't be bothered but I did host a massive Xmas party recently and have seen them for a night out in late jan. Recently they have started making jokes (not meant nastily but I can tell there are undertones that suggest they're annoyed). I am due to go up with DH this weekend but we're already planning on ducking out (we won't be letting anyone down as its a night in a pub and lots of ppl will be there). DH concerned that I'm not 100% and he's right. Close girl friends know about my pg. none of them have babies (we're 29 for context) but I'm already fielding off comment like "we'll never see you again at this rate!". Aib a bit u and neglecting them? Has anyone experienced this? I don't know why it's bothering me so much!
Also the fact that we don't have a place in London anymore puts me off, I just can't be bothered to sleep on a mates sofa!!
Don't let it bother you! If your friends think things are different now wait till the baby is here - contgratulations by the way! - It's always tricky when circumstances change but your priority now is you and your baby and definitely not what your friends might or might not think of you. Take care of you!
YANBU at all!
Look after yourself! Do they know you have an underactive thyroid?? Have you told them you don't feel well?
I well remember how I felt working in London when I was first pregnant..it is hardcore anyway without being pregnant!
I had to take early maternity at 6 months and I wasn't even suffering from added complications!
Have you told the GP you feel so tired?
early weeks of pregnancy knocked me for 6, without an under active thyroid so I'm not surprised you're feeling tired. Ignore the friends and let your DH take care of you.
My energy came bouncing back at about 18 weeks - can can catch up later. Once you let everyone know about the baby, they will understand.
Thanks so much for replies. Yes, Drs aware of thyroid. It was partly responsible for my difficulties in conceiving and got pg by fluke. They are having trouble regulating it and need to increase my thyroxine mess gradually due to pg but will hopefully get there! Thanks again
Congratulations! And no, YANBU- the first trimester can be exhausting, and even more so on top of thyroid issues! Make sure you're getting seen by an endocrinologist, as sometimes you'll need the medication dosage increased during pregnancy.
They'll get used to this - everyone fights it but it's inevitable when you move so far away, and even more inevitable when you're about to have a baby! They'll get over it. Look after yourself.
Ah those early weeks are tough. Your body has enormous changes to make and the baby is sucking your life force out of you. Add to that another health issue - whew, no wonder you are knackered.
I remember dragging myself into work and feeling the worst I have ever felt. And sleeping as soon as I got in.
You have to put yourself first. Life has changed. They probably find it unsettling that you are settling down a bit. In a couple of years they'll all be just like you.
When I was about 6 weeks pregnant with dc1, we went for a weekend away to visit PIL's - I was so exhausted by the endless tea drinking I had to excuse myself every day at about 2pm for an afternoon nap. 1st trimester pregnancy is the most tired I've ever been, even more so than being kept awake all night when he arrived!
Perhaps it's their joking way of saying they miss you, but if you sense they're annoyed then just ignore the remarks. Your real friends won't be annoyed if you don't feel like going out, they will respect your decision and will still be there at a later date.
I've had that all encompassing tiredness in Pregnancy - walking upstairs would leave me needing 10 mins sitting on the floor trying not to sleep! It really is something that nobody would believe unless they'd had it. I had my under active thyroid duagnosed 10 years ago (many years after my pregnancies, I definitely didn't have it then. So having both? Oh you poor, poor thing, my sympathies are with you. In this situation I'd say be honest. And remember, it'll all seem worth it one day.
Thanks everyone. Cancelled the weekend and got a text "how about next Wednesday?" 😂 Relentless
If you haven't already then you need to tell your gp immediately that you are pregnant. Your medication will need to be increased immediately.
"As soon as you know you are pregnant and if you are already taking levothyroxine it is usually recommended that the dosage is increased immediately by 25-50mcg daily. You should then arrange to have a thyroid function test."
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