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Clarathemagnificent Mon 15-Feb-16 13:55:41

I took DS swimming this morning and overheard another parent say to their child 'stay away from that black kid won't you?' Their child was no older than about 2. My DS is 3 and the subject of race has never come up before.

I feel really sad that he is destined to be judged throughout his life for a circumstance of birth which he isn't even aware of yet.

sooperdooper Mon 15-Feb-16 13:57:15

Wow I'm shocked, so sorry you've had to be around such awful people and their horrid comments sad

FuckyNell Mon 15-Feb-16 13:57:30

They really said that? Maybe you misheard? I mean if they did then that's awful but a 2 year old wouldn't really understand that I wouldn't think?

scarednoob Mon 15-Feb-16 13:57:36


That's disgusting. Really vile angry

AJ279 Mon 15-Feb-16 13:58:05

shockshock That is disgusting!! Twat's more than happy to bring up another generation of racist morons!! Don't let it upset you- it's their loss. But it's a horrible thing do say/do angry

SquidgeyMidgey Mon 15-Feb-16 13:58:37

Stay away because they're black or stay away because they're acting up and the colour of their skin was the first identifying feature to come to mind?

May09Bump Mon 15-Feb-16 13:59:08

Horrid racist, sorry you both had experienced this!

SquidgeyMidgey Mon 15-Feb-16 13:59:10

Sorry, didn't mean that to sound like it's ok either way.

goodnightdarthvader1 Mon 15-Feb-16 13:59:59

What Squidgy said. You don't know if they've had a previous altercation.

SquidgeyMidgey Mon 15-Feb-16 14:00:37

I can't believe people would segregate like that in this day and age. F*cling he'll fire sad

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Mon 15-Feb-16 14:02:48

Well in balance DS wanted to invite "J" for tea - I didn't know who is was and asked him to describe him -

He's the only black child in the school and DS made no reference to this at all -

They are rude people - your DS will be fine - not all people are rude!!! You were just unfortunate to bump into them

JudgeBooby Mon 15-Feb-16 14:03:53

It could be a behavioural issue, and that was how they identified the child in question.

I'm mixed (black) myself, and not particularly offended without knowing how it was meant in the wider context.

stitchglitched Mon 15-Feb-16 14:04:49

I rook

Oysterbabe Mon 15-Feb-16 14:07:17

Stay away because they're black or stay away because they're acting up and the colour of their skin was the first identifying feature to come to mind?

If this was the situation I think it's fine. I don't think it's racist to use skin colour to identify someone, it's just a statement of fact like height or haircolour.

Riderontheswarm Mon 15-Feb-16 14:07:40

That is so bad I really think you must have misheard. If you didn't I don't know what to say.

stitchglitched Mon 15-Feb-16 14:10:23

Sorry for weird accidental post! I took it to mean that the woman in question was referring to your child OP? If so that is awful and sorry you had to experience that.

cariadlet Mon 15-Feb-16 14:11:12

If the comment was made from racism then that is shocking.

If it's made because your child is confident and splashy in the water, and the younger child is a bit nervous, then "black" might just have been used as a neutral, descriptive term by a protective parent.

I'm hoping it was the latter.

228agreenend Mon 15-Feb-16 14:13:21

If 'the black child' was playing in the pool perfectly normally, then the morher's comment was atrocious.

However, if the black kid was mucking around, and causing chaos, then I guess the comment was not racial, but more descriptive, in the same way you would say the tall kid, ginger kid, etc. I've. An identifying description. It doesn't nessarily make it right, but it's easily done.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Mon 15-Feb-16 14:14:00

To me it was a racist comment. Why bring up the color of a child's skin. Children do not even see differences of skin or hair color at 2 years old. Also fancy telling a child to keep away from a child. Good luck stopping her playing with all children from other nationalities. What's she going to do when her DD goes to school.

228agreenend Mon 15-Feb-16 14:14:26

Did you think it was a racial comment, or descriptive?

OhYouLuckyDuck Mon 15-Feb-16 14:15:35

Why did they say it? If your child was diving or jumping in and my child was not a confident swimmer who hated getting splashed I'd tell them to keep away from your child but I'd be more likely to say keep away from the boy diving in and only use something so descriptive if my child was struggling to work out who I meant.

pastmyduedate0208 Mon 15-Feb-16 14:17:52

Were they saying it about your child, or another (black) child they had a problem with?

Stuff like this is usually a misunderstanding.

pastmyduedate0208 Mon 15-Feb-16 14:19:38

There may have been a black child nearby who was known for pushing other children into the pool or something?

AMouseLivedinaWindMill Mon 15-Feb-16 14:21:20

Op is your son the "black kid" its not clear to me?

I initially thought it may be a distinguishing feature too if the child was acting up. But then again your in a swimming pool not a soft play so how would going near the black kid be possible?

sounds really odd?

I mean at soft play, you see a child being violent you may want to advise your dc stays clear, but how is this possible in a pool with parents looking after the dc?

Op if this comment was made at you and your child I would have immediately got out, and gone to reception to talk to a manager and asked for the removal of that person!

I would have kicked up a massive stink....if the manager was flakey or not knowing what to do I would have said, " look you deal with this or I will call police now" etc.

At the very least the woman would have hopefully been embarrassed and would think twice about uttering such a thing again.

If it was your dc this was aimed at flowers. It shows her ignorance nothing else.

MrsOs Mon 15-Feb-16 14:24:34

Yes i also wonder if your child might have been splashing and the other kid gets very upset at being splashed.. And that was the best way to describe your child. Otherwise i would have confronted them and asked what they meant..

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